Sorry for the mixed answers but it really does depend on the people involved...for example if i woz talking with a group of blokes who like sport I'd talk sport more than with a group of women who didn't...but importantly i'm just as likely to talk sport wiv sport-loving women. And so on...
I think it shouldn't, but it does. I did my hen do girls only, mainly driven by how to choose 6 people to go away with without having to give great offence about who was my best friend, and it was a very different atmosphere, even though we were broadly mathmaticians and scientists! I guess even if we want the world to be perfectly fair to both sexes, it _isn't_, and that is going to skew the way people talk and behave - for instance, one of the things it was nice to have a girly group together for was talking about being a girl in a male dominated field, which is completely meta!
I see gender as a form of stereotyping really - when we first get to know someone, we judge them on various factors that, whilst might not always be true or fair, nonetheless allow you to make some predictions based on these. So gender seems to be one of these factors. That doesn't mean I do this consciously, it's just how we automatically see people. As I get to know someone better, I see them more individually rather than in terms of a gender - which makes sense in that there's less need to make predictions when you know someone.
I like to think that I don't treat people differently based on gender as far as possible, though in some circumstances that might be unavoidable (e.g., family).
I tend to dislike entirely or almost all single gender groups (I don't think there is a difference between all male and all female here, just that I prefer it being mixed). (I didn't tick the "at work" option, but to be honest I wouldn't know, as I've only ever been in work situations with mostly men. I'd probably prefer more of an even mix there,
It depends on the people. Particularly with the last two questions. With my friend groups there isn't much gender difference, but the guys do tend to talk about computer games far more than the girls do.
I know very few large groups of women, so it's difficult to judge whether it makes a big difference to the atmosphere in the group. (Incidentally, there are two "I don't know" options in that question :-)
I would like to treat men and women alike, and I try to, but I feel as if I don't quite succeed. (I also feel as if the difference is more pronounced the more I fancy the woman in question, although it's perfectly possible that my actual behaviour is less different than I think and what's actually different is that I worry about it more afterwards.)
I think there is a noticeable difference between the things I talk about with my closest male and female friends, although I really couldn't say whether that's due to a difference in the sorts of things I expect them to be interested in or sympathetic to or a difference in the sorts of things they really are.
"I also feel as if the difference is more pronounced the more I fancy the woman in question"
Presuming (I have no idea if this is true or not) that you're straight/not in the habit of fancying men, the distinction here might seem a big fogged but I think everyone behaves differently with *people* they fancy, rather than specifically *women* they fancy. I behave differently with women I fancy. I behave differently with men I fancy, too.
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I like to think that I don't treat people differently based on gender as far as possible, though in some circumstances that might be unavoidable (e.g., family).
I tend to dislike entirely or almost all single gender groups (I don't think there is a difference between all male and all female here, just that I prefer it being mixed). (I didn't tick the "at work" option, but to be honest I wouldn't know, as I've only ever been in work situations with mostly men. I'd probably prefer more of an even mix there,
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I would like to treat men and women alike, and I try to, but I feel as if I don't quite succeed. (I also feel as if the difference is more pronounced the more I fancy the woman in question, although it's perfectly possible that my actual behaviour is less different than I think and what's actually different is that I worry about it more afterwards.)
I think there is a noticeable difference between the things I talk about with my closest male and female friends, although I really couldn't say whether that's due to a difference in the sorts of things I expect them to be interested in or sympathetic to or a difference in the sorts of things they really are.
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Presuming (I have no idea if this is true or not) that you're straight/not in the habit of fancying men, the distinction here might seem a big fogged but I think everyone behaves differently with *people* they fancy, rather than specifically *women* they fancy. I behave differently with women I fancy. I behave differently with men I fancy, too.
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