...to get me to drive all the way out here to make a post because i am so pissed off. I need to vent and i have enough time before Matt shows up to do just that
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moving is difficult enough without the added stress of feeling let down by people you care about. did you find a way to get everything moved in after all?
i often think of the saying "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me." i try to give people the benefit of the doubt. i try to have faith in humanity but, quite frankly, i've typically been proven wrong.
i'm just looking at this as an outsider but, honestly, it seems like she is often a source of stress for you. i realize that you've felt comfort around her at times but i can't help but wonder what, in fact, she contributed to that comfort. i'm not saying that she's a bad person -- but she might be bad for you. that is obviously something only you can decide. i realize that you were venting -- so please forgive me if i'm completely off-base here.
*sigh*
trust me you are not the only person who has related to this sort of association with Karina. It was certainly something on my mind when a number of us went out on my birthday Saturday. She seems to have her opinions about a variety of things concerning me and while she has taken them personally to me in the past concerning my sexuality, she resorted to NOW discussing them with my friends whom she just met that very evening. Trust in me that things are going to change very soon.
While she and i certainly get along wonderful at times i also have really gotten the feeling that she is certainly not someone i can rely on. And telling my friends that i just need to take a guy home and get out of the closet ON MY birthday.. just ain't the way to make me want to keep things at the same level.
isn't that on the "list of things not to say on someone's birthday" (or any other day of the year)?
i'm sorry that was hanging over your head on saturday (and throughout the weekend). at least it sounds like you managed to have an incredible day and night.
a new year of your life...a new place to start it... :)
Moving is a bitch enuf....and you don't need to deal with any other bitches as it is. If i were a bit closer i'd offer you a hand right away-and having had moved at least six times(me a military brat)-once without any movers to help us, i'm pretty sure i know what a pain in the ass it is....with the only good thing actualling getting ur shit organized. Good luck-since its all i could really give from this side of the net and the sout of the state ;)
Being that my mother moved us no less than 25 times by the time i reached the age of 16 (you would think we were on the Witness Protection Program) i can deal with the moving part, it was just the need for an extra set of hands that was frustrating.
Luckily everything i needed to do got done and all worked out for the best. THe place already looked like i have lived there for months and i am so content and relieved now i cannot help it.
Sorry you had such a hard time. I wish that I could help you move right now. You are not an idiot. You have acted correctly as a friend, done what is right. She has not reciprocated. It is her selfishness that is the problem, not your generosity. I'm glad to see you are upset and taking this as the reality of the relationship, but try not to be so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful and giving friend and deserve the same. Let me know when you are in Seattle, and the angels and I will show you reliability until it drives you batty.
I have helped my sister move 14 times and will be there when she moves again if physically able in any way.
Re: thank you!nos4a2November 26 2001, 06:10:13 UTC
Thank you dear, i am heeding this words and know that i have realized the error of my ways in this friendship i have had with this woman.
When she came by on my birthday she even went so far as to say "You were mad at me when you left Friday, weren't you?" Which just shows me that she saw my displeasure but never took the time to carry out her part of the friendship in order to alleviate my stress. I don't have time for that in my life.. greedy, selfish people. I am done giving chances...
thanks for your message though, your words and thoughts are always ALWAYS appreciated.
Re: thank you!starrynytes4meNovember 26 2001, 09:40:37 UTC
Amy told me this weekend that selfishness is no better than intentional evil. She's like an emotional genius to me,..I just stare, and wonder what it would be like to be so sure, to trust my feelings so much. I am trying to be strong, but feel a bit like I took the red pill lately coming back into my body after so long a vacation caused by pain and health problems. Just want to make sure that I've really woken up, not just woken up still in a dream.
I make no sense. Glad you are back Gary and I hope you found some joy on your birthday. Your comments and little things that make me smile were much missed.
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moving is difficult enough without the added stress of feeling let down by people you care about. did you find a way to get everything moved in after all?
i often think of the saying "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me." i try to give people the benefit of the doubt. i try to have faith in humanity but, quite frankly, i've typically been proven wrong.
i'm just looking at this as an outsider but, honestly, it seems like she is often a source of stress for you. i realize that you've felt comfort around her at times but i can't help but wonder what, in fact, she contributed to that comfort. i'm not saying that she's a bad person -- but she might be bad for you. that is obviously something only you can decide. i realize that you were venting -- so please forgive me if i'm completely off-base here.
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trust me you are not the only person who has related to this sort of association with Karina. It was certainly something on my mind when a number of us went out on my birthday Saturday. She seems to have her opinions about a variety of things concerning me and while she has taken them personally to me in the past concerning my sexuality, she resorted to NOW discussing them with my friends whom she just met that very evening. Trust in me that things are going to change very soon.
While she and i certainly get along wonderful at times i also have really gotten the feeling that she is certainly not someone i can rely on. And telling my friends that i just need to take a guy home and get out of the closet ON MY birthday.. just ain't the way to make me want to keep things at the same level.
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isn't that on the "list of things not to say on someone's birthday" (or any other day of the year)?
i'm sorry that was hanging over your head on saturday (and throughout the weekend). at least it sounds like you managed to have an incredible day and night.
a new year of your life...a new place to start it... :)
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Luckily everything i needed to do got done and all worked out for the best. THe place already looked like i have lived there for months and i am so content and relieved now i cannot help it.
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Sorry you had such a hard time. I wish that I could help you move right now. You are not an idiot. You have acted correctly as a friend, done what is right. She has not reciprocated. It is her selfishness that is the problem, not your generosity. I'm glad to see you are upset and taking this as the reality of the relationship, but try not to be so hard on yourself. You are a wonderful and giving friend and deserve the same. Let me know when you are in Seattle, and the angels and I will show you reliability until it drives you batty.
I have helped my sister move 14 times and will be there when she moves again if physically able in any way.
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When she came by on my birthday she even went so far as to say "You were mad at me when you left Friday, weren't you?" Which just shows me that she saw my displeasure but never took the time to carry out her part of the friendship in order to alleviate my stress. I don't have time for that in my life.. greedy, selfish people. I am done giving chances...
thanks for your message though, your words and thoughts are always ALWAYS appreciated.
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I make no sense. Glad you are back Gary and I hope you found some joy on your birthday. Your comments and little things that make me smile were much missed.
*hug with pat*
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"multi-tasking emotionally"
damn if that doesn't sum up today already.. lol
and i am glad to know i am missed when i am absent... and trust me i live for your comments as well.
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Yesterday sounds like it sucked, I hope things get better.
I hope you have a great day though. Happy thoughts sent your way.
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post about it soon...
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