A quest

[notadiamond]

Through several months of therapy, I have come to the conclusion that I want to come to a place where I can truly forgive Amy. Not because she deserves it - gods know she doesn't, and probably doesn't even want it. But I want to be in a place where I rule my feelings, not the other way around. I've also come to the realization that while our

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[grannieof2]

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It has NOTHING to do with making the other person feel better, or doing the "right" thing, or pleasing anyone else. You hit it right on the head: by hanging on to what's happened we let our abusers control our lives, steal our joy. It's not forgive and forget; it's remember (so you don't go down that street again), and let go.

I read something the other day that made me pause: if it's happening only in your head, it's in the past. Time to let it go.

"...the picture kept will remind me..."

[grannieof2]

I meant to say: good to see you. :)

[notadiamond]

Thanks, grannie!