more on relationships
Relationships are the centre of life.
You have a relationship with everyone and everything.
From the slight (say, with the lamp by your bed), to the more significant (the company you work for), to right at the top of the heap.. your parents, your family and yourself.
So, it's probably worth getting these sorted out. Aiming for an end goal of complete, unconditional love, I've discovered some nifty tricks beyond my last post on the subject.
Specifically, while that methodology is useful and fast, it requires intuition and a lot of attention. It's also a bit tricky to nail those last, niggly little details.
Here's a way that's more powerful, faster, and requires a lot less experience or attention to work. Perhaps unsurprisingly, it continues from this discovery.
For every relationship in your life (in any order, totally up to you), ask yourself:
What is stopping me from completely/deeply/truly* loving this person?
See what pops up, and heal** it. Rinse, repeat, until you end up with the answer "Nothing", and a deep, permeating feeling of joy whenever you think of that person.
That's it.
* Use whatever word resonates for you with that person
** For whatever value of 'heal' works for you.
A few notes.
1. If you don't feel that joy, but can't think of anything, heal on "even though I don't know what is stopping me from completely/deeply/truly loving this person". It's very common that we hide things from ourselves. It's just our subconscious trying to protect us. After all, who really wants to admit that they hate someone close? It's ok, and it is safe, just break the barrier, then heal anything that comes up.
2. Heal anything that pops up, no matter how ridiculous it seems. In fact, particularly if it seems illogical or ridiculous. Some personal examples "because he's a dick", "because he's f'ing asshole", "just coz" etc etc. Just get rid of it, whatever it is.
3. It's worth healing relationships with any major entities in your life. E.g., the company you work for. I found many interesting (self-limiting) things doing this. Also any other "body" that springs to mind.
4. When using EFT to heal, I recommend loving & forgiving yourself, AND loving and forgiving the other person. Yourself for not loving them, them for their behaviour/attitude. Also, a good phrase I've found is "Even though I can't possibly love X because...".
In the space of a couple of nights, I've managed to wade through the vast majority of my past hurt regarding my parents (this technique, more than any other I've tried, has released some very surprising things, very deeply buried). I've also cleared out (far as I can tell at the moment) everything with regards to myself (still letting that settle, twas intense). With more minor, but troublesome relationships, I've cleared everything out ridiculously quickly (think, after months just tapping normally, I've cleared everything in under 15 minutes), and yes, been left with a feeling of deep, peaceful bliss towards them.
It's all.. too good not to share. (more later on why I've been so aggressively chasing this theme).
[ part 2 here]
You have a relationship with everyone and everything.
From the slight (say, with the lamp by your bed), to the more significant (the company you work for), to right at the top of the heap.. your parents, your family and yourself.
So, it's probably worth getting these sorted out. Aiming for an end goal of complete, unconditional love, I've discovered some nifty tricks beyond my last post on the subject.
Specifically, while that methodology is useful and fast, it requires intuition and a lot of attention. It's also a bit tricky to nail those last, niggly little details.
Here's a way that's more powerful, faster, and requires a lot less experience or attention to work. Perhaps unsurprisingly, it continues from this discovery.
For every relationship in your life (in any order, totally up to you), ask yourself:
What is stopping me from completely/deeply/truly* loving this person?
See what pops up, and heal** it. Rinse, repeat, until you end up with the answer "Nothing", and a deep, permeating feeling of joy whenever you think of that person.
That's it.
* Use whatever word resonates for you with that person
** For whatever value of 'heal' works for you.
A few notes.
1. If you don't feel that joy, but can't think of anything, heal on "even though I don't know what is stopping me from completely/deeply/truly loving this person". It's very common that we hide things from ourselves. It's just our subconscious trying to protect us. After all, who really wants to admit that they hate someone close? It's ok, and it is safe, just break the barrier, then heal anything that comes up.
2. Heal anything that pops up, no matter how ridiculous it seems. In fact, particularly if it seems illogical or ridiculous. Some personal examples "because he's a dick", "because he's f'ing asshole", "just coz" etc etc. Just get rid of it, whatever it is.
3. It's worth healing relationships with any major entities in your life. E.g., the company you work for. I found many interesting (self-limiting) things doing this. Also any other "body" that springs to mind.
4. When using EFT to heal, I recommend loving & forgiving yourself, AND loving and forgiving the other person. Yourself for not loving them, them for their behaviour/attitude. Also, a good phrase I've found is "Even though I can't possibly love X because...".
In the space of a couple of nights, I've managed to wade through the vast majority of my past hurt regarding my parents (this technique, more than any other I've tried, has released some very surprising things, very deeply buried). I've also cleared out (far as I can tell at the moment) everything with regards to myself (still letting that settle, twas intense). With more minor, but troublesome relationships, I've cleared everything out ridiculously quickly (think, after months just tapping normally, I've cleared everything in under 15 minutes), and yes, been left with a feeling of deep, peaceful bliss towards them.
It's all.. too good not to share. (more later on why I've been so aggressively chasing this theme).
[ part 2 here]