That is actually a fairly common plight in polyamorous relationships. I've seen it happen a number of times over the years with various friends having break-ups over one person either misunderstanding or trying to completely change the terms of the relationship.
As for the money thing, I think I may have finally learned that lesson myself. Friends told me time and time again and it took the loss of thousands of dollars for me to finally accept that their advice. Never "loan" money to anyone you are in any type of relationship with (be it friend or lover) if you expect to get it back. Consider anything lent to someone else gone forever as a "gift" if you will.
Just be glad that the time you lost in this failed relationship was only 2 months rather than 2 years and that the money you lost was $30 rather than $3,000. There is always a silver lining. ;)
It has been common in my observances as well. Poly relationships do have their problem areas, but so far it's the best solution to the problem of modern relationships that I've discovered. I was writing an essay about this actually, still haven't taken the time to finish. I will post it when I'm done.
It's good advice you offer here. A lesson I already knew, thinking back to my ex-fiance. It is UNBELIEVABLE how much I spent on her, and how much time I wasted (if I choose to look at it in those terms). This affair definitely wasn't about money, and that isn't really at issue. It's just the failed principle behind going back on a deal simply because it ceased to be convenient.
I've been working on it a lot. Actually I have decided to propel the project into a book or film endeavor and expand the subject matter to relationships in general. I've been interviewing people about it to get a feel for how this should go and have been inspired with tons of great ideas. I'm super excited, but will need to get some equipment and setup a location. Due to my lack of resources it's going to take some time. :( sad day!
You know Keegan don't you? He's a mild genius in my opinion, definitely worth talking to even if just to pick his brain, about film (and also probably doing so on a low budget). I cannot wait until your ideas come to fruition, in whatever form :D
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As for the money thing, I think I may have finally learned that lesson myself. Friends told me time and time again and it took the loss of thousands of dollars for me to finally accept that their advice. Never "loan" money to anyone you are in any type of relationship with (be it friend or lover) if you expect to get it back. Consider anything lent to someone else gone forever as a "gift" if you will.
Just be glad that the time you lost in this failed relationship was only 2 months rather than 2 years and that the money you lost was $30 rather than $3,000. There is always a silver lining. ;)
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It's good advice you offer here. A lesson I already knew, thinking back to my ex-fiance. It is UNBELIEVABLE how much I spent on her, and how much time I wasted (if I choose to look at it in those terms). This affair definitely wasn't about money, and that isn't really at issue. It's just the failed principle behind going back on a deal simply because it ceased to be convenient.
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