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omg_miss_jess

He's Just Not That Into You!

Jan 20, 2006 11:01

Okay so my housemates bought this book called 'He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys'. It's this great slap-in-the-face book that a lot of girls (myself included) need to read. The author (a straight guy) explains that there's no such thing as 'mixed messages' with guys - "If a (sane) guy really likes you, there ( Read more... )

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cibab January 20 2006, 02:20:13 UTC

yeah i reckon it's all true. although i could definitely imagine being simply too scared to call a girl i really liked. in fact, the chances of me ever calling a girl i really liked would be pretty slim i reckon. it's be more likely to msn or email them. if they weren't on the internet i'd probably just hope i ran into them.

omg_miss_jess January 20 2006, 03:15:13 UTC

the book says things like emails don't really cut it, but i think for our generation they do. i know i would much rather text or email a guy than call - calling is so daunting!

cibab January 20 2006, 03:18:28 UTC

yeah, definitely. i don't really think there's any difference between phone and email in terms of level of interest, only in terms of gutlessness. heh.

omg_miss_jess January 20 2006, 03:23:32 UTC

calls are a bit weird though, y'know? like if i met a guy and he got my phone number and he called me up i'd be pretty surprised and maybe even a little bit weirded out (if he sounded desperate!). it would be alright if it was a casual kind of call, but for young people i reckon texts are a good option.

roflhypnol January 20 2006, 02:59:19 UTC

I think its all pretty valid advice. Occasionally you won't tell someone you like them, because of miscellaneous circumstances (ie they're seeing someone else) but usually yeah definitely I'd tell the girl I like her. I mean whats the worst that can happen? (Brisbane answer - everyone gossips for about 35 mins until someone else asks someone else out or cheats on someone hehe)

As for the other question, I think it is a lot harder to tell someone you aren't into them if they aren't into you. I think that's the case for girls too though. I feel kind of mean when I feel like that, so I try not to; but its pointless... gotta follow yr heart.

So in conclusion, I think its quite valid; but also I think girls are just as guilty of some of the above points. Or maybe I just read it like that. shrizug.

ps - I really want to buy a book called self help and motivation, its by a guy who used to work on one of those self help shows and is just calling bullshit on dr. phil and the likes.

omg_miss_jess January 20 2006, 03:19:14 UTC

that book sounds awesome, dr phil annoys me.

i think girls are much more likely to tell someone if they like them or don't like them. guys must be so scared that if they told a girl they don't like them they might burst into tears or do something stupid. girls don't really have to worry about guys doing that so they say what they need to.

stuffandthat January 20 2006, 04:13:06 UTC

oh man. im totally getting this book over the weekend. did you know the same dude who wrote it has just released a new book about break-ups.. thats probably some reading worth checking out too.

uh huh.

omg_miss_jess January 20 2006, 04:17:26 UTC

yeah, 'it's called a break up because it's broken'..! best advice ever!

i don't really need it (yet) but one of our other housemates does so we're thinking of buying it for her.

mrwarandieboy January 20 2006, 12:03:37 UTC

i would most likely only call a girl if i was 99% sure that she liked me somewhat. this is probably only why ive only ever called up one girl to ask her out.

for most people, though, those rules are probably pretty spot on.

anonymous January 21 2006, 03:24:46 UTC

there's no hard and fast rules about how different sexes interract in relationships. the fact is, everyone is going to be different in their behaviour.

this just proves the fact that both guys and girls think way too much when it comes to relationships as opposed to acting naturally. (i think i'm the worst at this in the world).

omg_miss_jess January 23 2006, 01:55:42 UTC

we tested out the book on luke the other night. he agreed with almost all of the situations, as in, "yeah, if i said that to a girl it means i don't really like her". there were a few he was unsure about ("it depends on the circumstances") but generally he agreed that the book was giving good advice to women about guys.

vcr_hijackerz January 24 2006, 07:56:52 UTC

I thought i agreed with some of the stupid ones, like 'If a guy isn't having sex with you, he's just not that into you' but some of the others i wasn't sure about because i might like someone, but not let it known or something. I don't know. I remember the conversation following the book a lot more tbqh.