Comments | onceupon: January. 2011: SECRETS MONDAY!

onceupon

January. 2011: SECRETS MONDAY!

Jan 03, 2011 11:57

Not only is it the first Monday of the month, it's the first Monday of the new year! How awesome is that?

The rules haven't changed:

1. Leave an anonymous secret.
2. Interact with other people leaving anonymous secrets.
3. Don't be a douchebag.

Happy New Year!

secrets monday

Comments 38

anonymous January 3 2011, 19:39:46 UTC

Someone I slept with a few weeks back just informed me that he has herpes. And he knew he had herpes BEFORE we had sex. I want nothing more to do with him. Not because he has herpes but because he's a fucking liar who put me at risk to be infected with a fucking incurable STI. We had sex once, with a condom, but holy god I want to punch him in his throat for putting me and god knows who else in danger.

anonymous January 3 2011, 19:49:02 UTC

That is so incredibly shitty, selfish, and unethical of him. I'm so sorry that he's put you in this position.

You're absolutely right to want nothing else to do with the guy -- he was dishonest and he knowingly put you at risk.

Hope nothing comes of it and that you stay herpes-negative...

anonymous January 4 2011, 06:37:37 UTC

This is terrible :( I would like to join you in this throat-punching.

anonymous January 3 2011, 19:50:31 UTC

I just found out some REALLY GOOD NEWS about a potential relocation that I've been hoping for. Have to keep it under my hat until all the details are sorted out, but one hurdle is passed!!

*joy*

anonymous January 4 2011, 06:57:40 UTC

That's wonderful! Congratulations :)

anonymous January 3 2011, 20:08:56 UTC

I am really angry and negative today.

Angry with a friend whom I find it difficult, if not impossible, to hold accountable because sie is so universally regarded as unimpeachably good (and is, indeed, a very good person, but no one is perfect).

Angry at people who seem to be acting like shallow, competitive brats.

Angry about how much I fail to live up to my own relationship ideals about being direct with people. I just want to withdraw and pull the hole in after me.

anonymous January 3 2011, 22:35:38 UTC

I can never shake the feeling I've fucked up somehow and that she'd rather I just go away. She reassures me whenever I say this. I wish I could believe it.

anonymous January 4 2011, 00:08:40 UTC

I really don't get the appeal of the whole on-going shit-talking anon meme thing. I don't follow them either for fandoms or just general wank, and every time I do look at them due to someone I know getting hurt, I just recoil. I've been told there are good things happening in them and that I need to separate the good stuff that happens from the bad, but it seems like there's way too much shit for me to not paint them with a broad brush. So then why not just have a good advice-giving meme or something?

Well, okay, maybe I do get why they end up that way, because it's (temporarily) fun to say shitty stuff about people behind their backs. If anyone here hasn't done that at some point, I would be very surprised. But I've found that that high wears off pretty fast, and therefore I really don't understand how people can spend so much time there. And then I get paranoid about what people might be saying about me or other people I know and care about.

And when I say this non-anon, I sound really sanctimonious, so...thus anon! Like a

anonymous January 4 2011, 00:11:17 UTC

Same person. I just wanted to add the caveat that this is not directly aimed at any specific person or event. It is not a passive-aggressive attack, just musings on the nature of fandom and social media.