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[opto_alatus]

So I developed an eye infection over the weekend. Really painful; the first night I think I got a glimpse of what it's like to have a migraine. The stabbing pain in my eyebrow that shoots through my head whenever I'm exposed to light traveled up and across my forehead

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[opto_alatus]

I know. I don't mean to sound rude, but I'm told this all the time, to the point that it's irritating. It's one of the most cliché pieces of relationship advice - because it's true. But that also means I'm overly familiar with it. All I can do is try to show him he should change - at least, if he wants to be with me. I obviously can't make him or his behavior change. You're right, he's the only one who can do that. And that's why I'm not very optimistic about it.

[wizardgurl]

This may not be very helpful but I say open communication with Scott. Plainly tell him "I can't go out because of the light. Will you please do this stuff for me."

The biggest problem people have in relationships is a communications breakdown. You may think he knows about the light, but he may need it explained to him.

I'd say give it a try, if it doesn't work...then he is being a tool.

[opto_alatus]

I know...I tried that the second time (last night). I explained to him why I couldn't and he didn't say anything at all.

Every time I "have a talk" with him about something that bothers me, he goes into fight-or-flight mode. I mean, he visibly stiffens and doesn't say anything unless I absolutely demand that he does. I end up talking AT him, not TO him. The end result is that if I find out anything from him, it's due to him defensively retorting to something I say, finally striking a nerve or something. It's never voluntary information, and it's always bad news about myself that I never would have known unless I forced it out of him.

I can't keep it up but I'm not in a financial position to move, and honestly between the shit that my body's been springing on me and work, I'm too exhausted to even do anything about it. It's...just not good.

[wizardgurl]

if being exhausted is your only reason for still being with scott then you need to get out.

But I think when you calm down, and you aren't exhausted you can think of more reasons to be with him than not. If the cons out way the pros...well you know what you should do.

In general i am sorry to hear things are shitty for you.

[vraven]

Lame.