In the US, you apply for disability in the state that you live in. My "legal" status in in Indiana and I can't establish legal status somewhere else without actually being in the state I was applying in, and once I did that, I would not necessarily be able to apply to a different state if I moved. Even if I were able to establish legal residency somewhere, I would then have to establish disability status, which is not easy to get and requires a whole lot of medical involvement in one's life in ways that have made my life a living hell in the past and I'm not exactly inclined to try to repeat, and then even still it could take years.
Basically, as fucked up as things are right now, I think that going on disability would actually just make things worse because it would trap me in ways that are not conducive to my continued existence.
I've never been homeless but I sure as heck have screwed up, not had the physical or mental will to go on, and have done so - so with that in mind, here's the best advice I can give you (that I would give anyone in your situation): Sadly, at the end of the day, it's just you. You, you, you. You are the only one who can decide that either A- like kisekileia said, if you physically and emotionally are COMPLETELY UNABLE to work, then sign up for disability (we'll discuss the homeless part in a minute) or B- you force yourself, blood, sweat, tears and all, to get whatever job or jobs you can and slowly but surely get back on your feet. I know, it sounds too simple, and I know there's a lot of reasons, "buts" and excuses why you just "can't" do either of those - but in the end, realistically, those ARE your only choices in the long run
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I think I'm like...two years younger than you. :-P
In my last post, I was talking specifically about getting assaulted on the train. When I said I was physically okay, I meant "that specific incident did not result in any sustained physical injury"...not "in life, I'm physically just fine".
I know, age difference isn't much. Just add spouse and toddler ;)
And like I said, if you're not physically ok, you have to figure out what you CAN do and do it. Don't give up or give in is all I'm saying. You're awesome - keep being awesome.
Here's hoping things get better soon! You have to start where you are, I also am about to go through a housing change and am trying my best to make it all OK. I am fighting an eviction notice that is illegal but still. I need work and have been working on and off, life is tough! Hope things change! I also worry I have not looked hard enough for work and my rent is going up since one person is moving out (we are looking for another roommate) and not fighting this eviction (bank is wanting us gone to sell the house, in SF you can't do that legally).
Start where you are and don't kick yourself. Sounds like getting work is the answer and just a place to stay temporarily. Later, you can figure out why things got as they did. I know for me, it is bad habits and not planning ahead properly. But, I am working on it, that's all you can do.
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Basically, as fucked up as things are right now, I think that going on disability would actually just make things worse because it would trap me in ways that are not conducive to my continued existence.
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Sadly, at the end of the day, it's just you. You, you, you. You are the only one who can decide that either A- like kisekileia said, if you physically and emotionally are COMPLETELY UNABLE to work, then sign up for disability (we'll discuss the homeless part in a minute) or B- you force yourself, blood, sweat, tears and all, to get whatever job or jobs you can and slowly but surely get back on your feet. I know, it sounds too simple, and I know there's a lot of reasons, "buts" and excuses why you just "can't" do either of those - but in the end, realistically, those ARE your only choices in the long run ( ... )
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In my last post, I was talking specifically about getting assaulted on the train. When I said I was physically okay, I meant "that specific incident did not result in any sustained physical injury"...not "in life, I'm physically just fine".
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And like I said, if you're not physically ok, you have to figure out what you CAN do and do it. Don't give up or give in is all I'm saying. You're awesome - keep being awesome.
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Start where you are and don't kick yourself. Sounds like getting work is the answer and just a place to stay temporarily. Later, you can figure out why things got as they did. I know for me, it is bad habits and not planning ahead properly. But, I am working on it, that's all you can do.
Sending a hug out!
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