My brothers birthday

[peanutz]

Today is my big brothers birthday, he would have been 56 today. I think of my mother, and what she must be feeling today... Maybe remembering the birth pangs of a premie, her first born. Holding him in her arms, and vowing that no harm would ever come to him. I know, that is what I did with the birth of my children. That overwhelming love, that

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[mosby722]

I love you Bren. *hugs*

[peanutz]

Love you too, Cathy!
Hugs
Bren

The Love of a Sibling

[inayah_az]

Loss is so hard to deal with. It doesn't matter if its your sibling, parent, close relative, or friend. I lost my grandmother that I lived with all of my life. She died in my arms at the age of 102. That was four years ago. Sometimes I can remember her and my heart doesn't bleed. Sometimes I remember her and the tears start. I had a friend once that died. He was only 21. He told me that even though people go we should not be sad for them. Yes they are not here physically, but they are here in our memories and those will never die. They are in a better place doing better things. We grieve for them because we are human. We miss them because we are human. When you talk to your brother and father they hear you. When its your time they will be there. They aren't gone, they just aren't here physically. Today your brother comforts you with his memory. And you may just get an answer when you talk to him. Something as simple as the brush of what you think is a breeze against your cheek. He is there he is not gone. It is a true blessing that

Re: The Love of a Sibling

[peanutz]

Thank you
Brenda

[mindgames4one]

Your post made tears run down my own cheeks, as I am also missing my brother, who passed away two years ago and would now be 52.

I guess, by how much we still miss these absent brothers, illustrates to us what *good* brothers they actually were!

I myself have been in the finishing stages of liquidating my brother's assets. The lawyers have been dragging their feet and charging unbelievable fees in the process. I said I'd finish it up. I find myself spending much more time on it that is needed, but also dragging my feet... and I think it's probably due to the fact that by needing to do this, I still feel he's here in some way. To finish would really be the end.

I, also, am sad.

[peanutz]

Oh sweetie, I understand. Both of us have been blessed with our brothers, and both of us, double blessed, to be caretenders for them. I remember when you went to help tend to him.

Your brother will always be with you, as mine is with me. In our memories, in our dreams, in our good thoughts. He was cremated, so I don't have a grave to visit, and I wish I did. But, I believe he hears me, and it at peace, and most importantly, out of the pain.

Lawyers are a pain, and the longer it goes on, the more they manage to collect. It took a long time to settle my aunts estate, and the lawyers seemed to end up with quite a bit....
I realize they are necessary
Gentle hugs, my friend
Bren