Because I love 'im.

[pes_anthony]

I'm more than a little concerned with my brother Alex's impending engagement. It's something I'm fairly vocal about to people, because his flaws included, I love the guy and want the best for him. Alex bought an engagement ring for his girlfriend of around two years early December. Though "two years" sounds like a lot, honestly, the relationship

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[ren_narf]

I was hoping you'd get around to venting about this topic. Very well-said, and I have to comment in agreement after seeing examples of it all first-hand. Although you'd previously told me about the situation, it became obvious right away that their communication isn't too great. I can't remember what they argued about on UFC night, but I could clearly see his mood plummet dramatically after she went upstairs and didn't return his, "Good night/I love you." Then he disappeared up for there for what, a couple of hours? But there were a lot of minor things too, like during Mario Kart and the like. Indeed - good couple, not great, they need to work on things and speak up, and I'm very hopeful that he's receptive to the idea of counselling. As you said, the solution to communication problems in a relationship is not marriage.

[pes_anthony]

Indeed.. I really, really tried to stress to him on that effin' late night that hey, if you think this is hard/devastating (he was choked up/crying a lot), it's only going to get so much more serious and complicated when you're spending every waking moment with this girl. You don't get to wake up in a different house or just give each other distance by staying at your respective places >_> I don't think he really feels like marriage is a solution more than just the natural progression, but still, I don't feel like my point sunk in.. he went right towards buying that ring and I really doubt that the magnitude of spending the rest of your life with a person has the weight it should

[rymist]

hmm, I think I might be able to offer some perspective on this situation

[pes_anthony]

Yeah there's no question he throws himself headfirst.. when she gets upset, he takes it completely personally if he can't fix it or is at all responsible.. then proceeds to never understand her reactions

[pes_anthony]

Hah. I get jokes

[tomax]

Mmph. I made the mistake of lacking communication. Tried to fix everything myself. Seriously, very bad idea. From the sound of it, Alex much resembles Rachel. There's really no way to deal with that. I hope he learns more than she did from her prior relationships.

[pes_anthony]

You know, it's a good point too that having had exes wouldn't be a guarantee that he'd grow or be in a different place yet. I suppose the argument one could make is that it would at least give another vantage point for those issues so he could see it's an ongoing thing and not just people nitpicking at Alex/Kasey.

I can imagine that would be tough. Hopefully, we'll get him to talk to people who've seen the situation hundreds of times and know what to say/do.

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[anonymous]

i love im so much but im to sead to tell him me and him are all ways with him but i cant tell him how much i love im but 1 day im going to tell him ? i love u bba