Choices

[poet_writer1]

Sometimes the choices I have to make are harder than I would ever have thought possible and sometimes those choices destroy something beautiful

Comments

[lunajewels]

It seems the hardest choices to make are the ones where you strip away all the emotion and are left with the right choice.

Sometimes all you can do is know that you are doing the right thing even though you are hurting the people you love.

[poet_writer1]

That's true... but I prefer to not hurt the people I love, although I'm sure that is the case for most people if not all people.

The right choice for the circumstances has been made... emotionally I'll just have to learn how to deal with it.

Thank you for your help.

[erisian_fields]

Which choice is the best in the long term? Things that might make you or others happy right now might be immediate gratification rather than taking the steps necessary to get you (and the others) where you want to be for the long haul. Sometimes it takes some pain in the immediate short term to achieve something wonderful that's long-lasting.

Will either option continue to make you happy over time?

Oh, and you are not responsible for the happiness of other people. You can't get in there and affect their thoughts. How someone else feels is 100% up to them. It's the spin they put on events that determines how they feel. The events themselves really don't matter. That's how you can have two people who are equally involved in the same event have such totally different reactions and perceptions of that event. They are each viewing it through their own eyes and that's the only way they can view it.

[poet_writer1]

Thanks.

I think that for the long term the best possible choice has been made. It's not one that I ever want to have to make again though.

[garden_of_eden]

perhaps there is an option you haven't considered yet

[poet_writer1]

Eden, as always you put a different spin on things and ask me to see it from all perspectives. This time I have looked at it from every direction, discussed the options, and regardless of my feelings or anyone elses made the choice that is best. A choice that was agreed upon and supported. I just wish that circumstances would have been different so that the choice had never been an option in the first place.

Maybe I'll tell you what that choice was or maybe he will... for now we are just trying to figure out how to get through. He's not himself lately either... and there's nothing he's willing to let me do to help, or maybe he just can't admit to himself that he needs help...

Thank you being there.