Comments | pregnant_teens: Introduction

tinkerbellx1x in pregnant_teens

Introduction

Jun 25, 2007 22:45

Hi, I'm Jessica, I'm 16 years old and 3 weeks pregnant.
I'm not to sure how to break it to my boyfriend, everytime I bring up having kids one day hes all like "your not pregnant right?" and I keep telling him I'm not. When I do say I want a baby to him he says "no until we're older" and that it will mess our lives up in a big way and everything ( Read more... )

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macabre June 26 2007, 02:56:33 UTC

It's always better to tell him sooner or later. It's going to be hard, but it's got to be done. Good luck.

__michelle June 26 2007, 03:28:08 UTC

At least you have your mothers support. In my opinion that's the most important thing. I suggest you just sit him down (soon) and let him know in a rational way what you plan on doing and that your mom is backing you up. Maybe that'll ease his mind knowing there's someone behind you and it's not just the two of you alone in this. Good luck and congratulations!

bazo0ka June 26 2007, 04:57:12 UTC

Not to sound harsh or mean, or just rude and "disgusting" but as a young parent myself, in hindsight, abortions aren't really that bad ( ... )

macabre June 26 2007, 05:17:18 UTC

For someone who believes strongly against abortion, it can be that bad. I deeply regret my abortion. It was a horrible experience.

bazo0ka June 26 2007, 06:19:40 UTC

I feel for you, and hope you grieve to your needs about your termination. For some people it can be a bad thing. For others it could be one of the best decisions they made/make.

My point was meant to be taken as, "read the good and the bad and see how YOU feel" - lean towards the one that captures you the most.

Also, if you go into something feeling its going to be the worst thing, it will be. The mind is a powerful thing.

Try it sometime if you don't believe me. One night just start telling yourself, "tomorrow is going to be a really bad day" *etc* and I can guarantee that the bad things in the day will overshine the good.

Your mental health is a much stronger being than your physical, though it may not seem that way.

to bazooka nineinchlover June 27 2007, 23:34:58 UTC

i respect your opinion, and you dont seem like an awful person, and that was useful information that should be told to every teen who is going to have a baby but it did not need to be said in the way you said it.
it seems like the girl has made up her mind she wants to keep her baby, it seems that she knows herself enough
and that is the worst thing you can say to someone that wants to keep their baby
that abortions aren't that bad? to you, they're not that bad, eventually not everybody has the same morals and feels the same way.
and sorry but you did sound disgusting and rude
but most of all
discouraging,
as a young parent yourself you should be supporting, not put the girl down.

bazo0ka June 26 2007, 04:57:46 UTC

(Continued :P ( ... )

bazo0ka June 26 2007, 08:10:14 UTC

Ok, not to drag on, but I just want to point out the importance of your power over your future right now. I never realized how much power over my future I had when i was 16, or even 18. Every decision made at that age will affect your entire life, forever. It's so empowering now as a young woman to know that I make my decisions, both good and bad, and that no one else can take those from me. It took me several years to realize this for myself. To realize that No one but MYSELF can decide which paths I go down, and where I end up in life. Other people can affect those paths, but only I can choose where to go next.

Ok, I'm done now. :)

bazo0ka June 26 2007, 09:23:59 UTC

I said I was done, but I just read over your profile, and feel that if you're going to be rstricting your eating and drinking, whether you're proED or anti-ED(though you seem pro), you might as well have an abortion.

As strong as that sounds, it's my biased opinion, through years of reading over birth compications and how ever detail of a pregnant woman affects the health of an infant and person for life.