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princessbunny

What to do?

Mar 21, 2010 16:34

I'm fine, baby's great, pregnancy progressing much better than last time. No bedrest yet, which is wonderful because I don't know how I could be on bedrest with an active little boy who doesn't nap and who sleeps 10 hours a night if I'm lucky ( Read more... )

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imjustafacade March 21 2010, 21:46:43 UTC

i have no clue, aside from just showing up at her house? i'm just sending hugs and im glad that everything is well with you guys (other than this) so many times ive heard this (in the cloth diapering world) however recently one lady did something similar with charity items, yarn, a book, etc and ignored everyone, unfriended everyone on fb, but kept updating etc and just recently she came clean and sent the items back. it is such a strange strange thing. i dont know what causes people to be so insane? you clearly want the item back, she needs to come clean and tell you what happened to the item. sorry this is all rambling together. im just so so sorry that something so precious to you was pretty much stolen. but i agree you need closure either way :[

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:16:32 UTC

I don't have a current address. I have an old one, but no way of verifying that it's still correct, and I don't really want to send a friend to the house of a stranger, you know?

I expect I am just going to have to let it go, as much as that breaks my heart, but there's only so much that can be done. I just wish she'd tell me what happened. At this point, I don't get why someone wouldn't. I mean what, does she think I'll think less of her if she tells me?

marlespo March 21 2010, 21:54:22 UTC

if it was ME, I'd write a letter and mail it to her. She can ignore messages, FB, LJ, emails etc.... but write a letter. Perhaps give her an "out", she's obviously hiding something - like either lying about fixing it or perhaps she's lost or sold it - but if you can say unjudgmentally that you just need to KNOW what is going on, how much the knowing means to you, then all that can do is pull at her heart strings. If something has happened, she must be avoiding you to avoid conflict. So if you go in saying "no conflict I promise", maybe she'll finally fess up. It is an option, anyway. I'd want to yell at her, but ultimately that won't get the blanket back. Guilt might.

princessbunny March 21 2010, 22:07:50 UTC

No current address to mail it to her at :/ If I had one, I'd have sent a friend to her house already, I run out of fingers counting the friends I have in her area.

theldara March 21 2010, 23:23:07 UTC

Have you done a reverse lookup on what phone numbers you have - if they're landlines, often you can track addresses off those. I don't have the skills to track addresses off cell phones, sadly.

If the only # she gave was a cell, can Sean's phone text hers?

If her name is unique enough, some internet searches may yield some results. When I was doing my invites (wedding and baby shower), I used names and known cities to find a lot of relatives address without having their phone numbers. It's amazing the public info that's out there.

I know you've probably tried those, but wanted to mention just in case.

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:20:21 UTC

Yeah, I did a reverse look-up on the landline, it's to an unlisted address in a city that is not where she lived when I last had an address for her. And when there's no answer at that number, it jumps to her cell.

Her name is fairly common, her husband's name even moreso.

I just don't understand it. I really don't. We were friendly online, I'd actually given her a few things over the years (things of my mom's, ironically enough) and I just don't get why she would do this to me. What point in there in not being honest at this point, what am I going to do about it no matter what has happened, you know?

cymraeg March 21 2010, 21:55:14 UTC

Here's my opinion, fwiw. If she was going to send it back, she would have sent it back by now. It's time to let it go. And finding out that she got rid of it somehow will not make you feel any better ( ... )

lneef March 22 2010, 00:13:02 UTC

All this is great advice. You are giving your baby girl something your mother made- you as her mother. All that love comes straight down through you.

I also think it would be neat to make something similar in "tribute", or even something else with a similar theme.

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:23:43 UTC

I just can't even begin to make anything close. I don't even have a sewing machine, or the knowledge to work one.

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:22:59 UTC

I agree. It makes me so angry and sad, but you're right. I've had to let go of a lot of her things over there years, by necessity or loss or whatever, I've sold a few pieces of furniture it was hard to part with recently because we needed the room or the money for the baby, but it just sucks to have to give something up that I really didn't want to, through no fault of my own.

And I definitely don't have the skill to make anything remotely like it, it was nearly beyond my mom's skillset and she was way better at sewing than I am (I'm lucky if I mend a seam that stays mended).

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fireyirishangel March 21 2010, 21:58:35 UTC

Oh Lily. I have no advice, but gosh do I wish I did.

I can't begin to imagine what would lead to someone essentially holding hostage something that is so precious to you. If something happened to it, if she wasn't able to repair it, she should have just been honest with you from the get-go and sent it back so that you could either simply save it somewhere or send it to someone else who wanted to try to repair it.

I'm so sorry that this has happened. I can't imagine how much it hurts.

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:24:08 UTC

Thanks. I really just don't understand it, it makes me so sad.

imprincessapril March 21 2010, 22:20:39 UTC

Would it help if one of us (not blocked by her, obviously) sent this post to her? Maybe she'd realize just how much it means to you, especially now.

princessbunny March 22 2010, 02:27:16 UTC

She can see it, I have no idea if she will, but she could. She never unfriended me on LJ, I guess because she can screen her comments so I can't publicly ask her about it continually like I could on Facebook. I have to assume that reading this wouldn't have any effect on her, I have emailed her as much so many times in the last year and she just ignores them, I can only assume she'd ignore this too. Whatever her reasoning for deciding to quit saying she was going to send it after 3 years & cutting me off entirely, obviously that's her plan and all the pleading int he world from me isn't going to help. I just hoped that if she'd answer the phone and hear my voice, she might remember that there's a human being behind the emails who is being deeply hurt by her actions.