What to do?

[princessbunny]

I'm fine, baby's great, pregnancy progressing much better than last time. No bedrest yet, which is wonderful because I don't know how I could be on bedrest with an active little boy who doesn't nap and who sleeps 10 hours a night if I'm lucky

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[princessbunny]

I agree that it is probably time to give up. I think maybe I just posted this so someone would tell me that. Or just to hear other people tell me that they're sorry, since she's never going to.

Pretty much all the clothes of hers I have left, I either wear or am not sure I could bear to cut up, but I'll think about that, it'd be something at least.

[purpledaffodil]

Do you have any pictures of it? perhaps you could, if nothing else, commission someone to make a copy of it for you.

[princessbunny]

I'm not sure if that wouldn't be worse than not having it at all. I think it'd just feel counterfeit to me, not replace just remind me of the one she should really have that her grammie actually made, you know?

[imprincessapril]

If you don't have one, I'd suggest getting a Been Verified account... I looked her up from her name as it shows on Facebook, and it has a LOT of info that could be of her... if so, it's not so great, as the criminal activity list is pretty long.

[princessbunny]

Hah well if that's the case then so be it. Shame on me for trusting people.

[grlykitty]

Sadly, I too have to agree with cymraeg.

My heart breaks for you. I've been through similar feeling with stuff of my mom or grandma and Gela. Usually it's more holiday traditions that I get in a tiff over. Nick has to remind me that Gela is not going to have my childhood (neither the good or the bad) and I need to let go of some things. It's hard.

Everytime we go to Spokane I take Gel with me to "visit" Nana. This last trip she asked me why Nana died and if Nana had loved her. It's the only way I can really keep my mom "alive" for Gel, and I don't know how fucked up that is. But it gives me a way to have the dialog with Gel. We also have "nana's books" which are some little books of mom's that I loved as child. Gel will ask me to read them every now and then and we talk about Nana then too.

Anyhow, I'm trying to say, there are other ways to keep your mama alive for the kids.

*hugs*

[princessbunny]

I know, I do. In my head I realize the thing to do now is just suck it up and accept that I;m one of the thousands of people who got screwed by an internet "friend" and leave it at that. But in my heart that is hard. I've gotten rid of so many of her things, either by necessity or loss or being ruined/stolen in moves and I've had to sell some things recently to make space/money for a new baby, but it's hard to accept losing this through no fault of my own and not even understanding why or how.

[grlykitty]

I get that. I'm in the same boat (selling some of Mom's and Grandma's things for the $$/to make some room) and would feel devastated if something was lost without my control. *hugs* I'm so sorry this is happening and I really don't understand some people. :(

[cleverkitten]

Sounds like she somehow ruined it or lost it and doesn't want to fess up to it. Sad that she'd lose a friend over it. I mean, she made SURE to lose a friend this way. At least if she'd fessed up to whatever happened to it, there would be a chance that you'd forgive her for it. I guess she'd rather be the one doing the cutting off.

[princessbunny]

I guess. At this point, what has she to lose by telling me the truth? I mean really? Does she think I'll think poorly of her? Um..