Comments | punch_: Gold is my favourite colour.

punch_

Gold is my favourite colour.

Feb 06, 2007 12:29

Yesterday I tried to remember what it was like before losing my dad.
I remember thinking frequently how lucky I was in life to have not lost anyone incredibly close to me.
I tried to remember feeling lucky. I was astounded as to how blank my mind came up.

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arlingtonguilt February 7 2007, 19:11:55 UTC

omg 2 FREEGE!$#!@$#@
& quiet talents, bonus.

also that women makes me want to eat glass.....just saying.....

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anonymous February 7 2007, 22:35:14 UTC

it would seem that not getting into anything with her and taking the higher road was wise to do. it seems as if she puts off a feeling that regardless of being proven right, she would not engage in a 'you are right' apology. i find these situations, where people are hurtful and cannot be swayed to see the otherside, being yourside; should have all ties cut.

she should be informed that she has nothing to do with your life and for what reasons, and then never allow her to contact you again.

i think mental health can be uplifted in doing that.
but maybe some people might think that, that is taking the easy way out.

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anonymous February 8 2007, 07:14:07 UTC

I'm a little embarrased to say this, but I look at your LJ every day. Amanda, there is nothing I can say or do to alleviate this shitty situation except to say that this woman is wrong. As I heard along the wire, you were nothing but awesome in the aftermath of all this. It's never ever easy, and no-one reacts in the 'right' way to all this. There is no 'right' way. It's death after all. Anyone who doesn't see the importance of supporting others, regardless of how they process it, is in my humble opinion... a bit of a twat. I'm sure it is of no solace, but you should take strength from believing in yourself. Know that you are a decent person and there is much in you to be proud of. Bad times do weigh heavily on the heart, it sucks, but it is so, and trusting yourself will at least make sure not to add to the weight of things ( ... )

fresita March 14 2007, 15:18:54 UTC

After my father was diagnosed with his tumor, we still had a good relationship. He got into a fight with my mom, and it was a huge drama-filled explosion. He went insane and really said horrible things about her, "warning" me what kind of person she was and telling me he wanted nothing to do with her family. I replied that I WAS her family, and asked if that included me. We didn't speak throughout the entire year before he died, and I thought that was his FAULT, because I emailed and tried calling, I didn't want things to end like that ( ... )

punch_ March 14 2007, 18:43:39 UTC

Curiousity is fine, totally okay with that.

"There is no right way to react. There is no right way to deal with any of this."

Those basically echo exactly what I tried to tell my stepmum but honestly, the woman doesn't get it.
My family has always been crazy and there's no exception for the "extended" part of it. So I'm well accustomed to chaos and irrationality. But this woman.
She expected my brothers and I to act like well-experienced adults and just totally appalled me. People keep saying that in times like this people say or do things that try and make them feel better to get over their loss. I understand that but when you come to the realization that this is just how people are. You really wonder about humans sometimes.

I'm really grateful for your words, really.

fresita March 14 2007, 19:12:22 UTC

I am only close to two of my sisters by my dad and his second wife (who isn't the CURRENT step-mother), and they are 17 and 18, and they were expected to handle it as adults while they lied to them the whole time about how long he had left. How fucked up is that?