The ardeur

[purplemidnite]

Laurel Hamilton, in her infamous Anita Blake series, calls it the "ardeur" the need for sex that overpowers the will and demands feeding, regardless of the consequences. In her books, it is a mystical infection that the heroine catches, but when she described it, I thought, damn, I've had that my whole life. Maybe this is what it is like to be a

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[peterthesoso]

I understand the ardeur too (as you know). I think it's less about sex and more about issues like intimacy, self-worth, etc. I'm happy that you've found the right guy who gives you what you need emotionally so that you don't need to try to fill the emptiness physically with someone else. :)

please speak for yourself

[purplemidnite]

My issues were never about my self-worth or intimacy. Sex is just my favorite drug. Arguably, the addiction flares up when I am avoiding hard truths (like my marriage being over), but it never was about me needing to improve my self-worth. That's always good. :-)