My last long-term relationship was a Pisces/Scorpio.... and it devastated me when he dumped me out of the blue. No warning at all. Many scars....
But yeah, at this point--just enjoy it. Try not to hold onto expectations (if you can), and go with the flow. In a few months re-evaluate. Y'know--once the overwhelming newness and lust(emotional and physical) has worn off somewhat.
And congrats for finding someone you enjoy so much!
Something to think about... *IF* he asked it of you, would you do the monogomaous thing with/for him? Would you shove that much of your personality/self into a closet for him? Don't answer--just consider that possibility. Hopefully it would never come to that.
I don't know about the monogamy thing. In my Scorpio/Pisces combination being poly didn't become an issue because in the months of that relationship I wasn't interested in anyone else sexually. It just happened that way. There are a lot of ways boundaries *could* be set, him becoming comfortable with poly, being ok with play that didn't include PIV/A (penis in vagina/anus) sex, me trying partial abstinence for a bit and seeing how I felt and probably a lot more. But until he sorts out his feelings- which will probably be a continuing thing- I think these musings are a bit pre-mature.
I'll just flow with it and see what happens in the pools of love and honesty.
LOL--I did say not to answer that--just consider your options. ~giggle~ looks like you've already been considering them!
We both know how poorly it worked out when one female we know tried to get someone who is poly to be monogomous... he put up with it for awhile then it blew up bad. He's poly and happy again, but she's still holding onto her pain and denying it. He's got at least 3 lovers that I know of, and they have others as well so that whole set it happy. She was flirting and playing the Faerie at PSG, but she still has issues.... I'm not naming names, but you know who I'm talking about I think.
I just don't want to see anyone else go through that.... And it looks like you're falling hard already. As long as he never ASKS you to give up that aspect you should be fine. Like you said with the other one--you just weren't interested in sex with anyone else. IMO that's the only way to do "monogomy".
You're wise to just flow with it and see what happens at this point.
Well, I suppose it won't really help to say, but I had something similar, perhaps not as intense, but with someone that I realized I could very easily fall in love with given time, when things went suddenly sour and caused the couple of anguished entries in my journal most recently.
My advice is to not stop believing, but keep your feet on the ground until you're sure.
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But yeah, at this point--just enjoy it. Try not to hold onto expectations (if you can), and go with the flow. In a few months re-evaluate. Y'know--once the overwhelming newness and lust(emotional and physical) has worn off somewhat.
And congrats for finding someone you enjoy so much!
Something to think about... *IF* he asked it of you, would you do the monogomaous thing with/for him? Would you shove that much of your personality/self into a closet for him? Don't answer--just consider that possibility. Hopefully it would never come to that.
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I don't know about the monogamy thing. In my Scorpio/Pisces combination being poly didn't become an issue because in the months of that relationship I wasn't interested in anyone else sexually. It just happened that way. There are a lot of ways boundaries *could* be set, him becoming comfortable with poly, being ok with play that didn't include PIV/A (penis in vagina/anus) sex, me trying partial abstinence for a bit and seeing how I felt and probably a lot more. But until he sorts out his feelings- which will probably be a continuing thing- I think these musings are a bit pre-mature.
I'll just flow with it and see what happens in the pools of love and honesty.
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We both know how poorly it worked out when one female we know tried to get someone who is poly to be monogomous... he put up with it for awhile then it blew up bad. He's poly and happy again, but she's still holding onto her pain and denying it. He's got at least 3 lovers that I know of, and they have others as well so that whole set it happy. She was flirting and playing the Faerie at PSG, but she still has issues.... I'm not naming names, but you know who I'm talking about I think.
I just don't want to see anyone else go through that.... And it looks like you're falling hard already. As long as he never ASKS you to give up that aspect you should be fine. Like you said with the other one--you just weren't interested in sex with anyone else. IMO that's the only way to do "monogomy".
You're wise to just flow with it and see what happens at this point.
Hugs!
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Enjoy it while you have it.
Meantime, just so you know..it's not all you :) Been floating on that water too..
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My advice is to not stop believing, but keep your feet on the ground until you're sure.
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