I am really hoping I dont get yelled at for this, but I must post my feelings here. Penny, ( i hope you dont mind that I call you that), I think you are an excellent mother towards John. I have always felt that you were one of those rare mothers that would do anything for their child. You dont see that to often nowadays. I have always enjoyed talking to you and would very much love to go out to dinner again so we could talk. In some ways, I feel like you are another mother to me. So John if you read this, please dont think I am taking sides here, because I am trying not too. I just wanted you to know, that I think you are doing a good job being a parent.
It is a good and true friend that can be this honest. I have really liked the things I've learned about you Colleen, and that you are a steadfast friend to John, as well as his mom. I can't imagine you will be yelled at by anyone.
I also agree with you. She is an excellent mother. She has learned from a lot of her own errors in the past, and now that's all she's trying to teach her son to do. Unfortunately, how it's being taken is why this has gone the direction it has.
Anyway, that's my two cents. You are a good friend.
Julie, it's Colleen's boyfriend Matt, i'm a friend of Johns as well, I know a lot about both of you, Penny and Julie, and both of you seem very predominant authority figures. Superb mothering is rare, Penny, and your son can't admit that because somewhere along the line, he though he could be God. Constructive criticism ring a bell. If anyone yells, it should be all of us yelling at John more, we all need to show him that love exists, and the biggest side kick of love, is hurt. If pain didn't exist, neither would love. To everything in the universe, there is an opposite, and that is how balance is reached. Penny, Julie, Colleen, we need to show John that humans make mistakes, that's how happiness is reached. Peace is possible!!!!
First, Colleen, we'll have to set that dinner up one day soon! I also enjoy talking with you a great deal. You're a terrific young lady. Thanks for your good words.
Julie, you're a peach! (But then I've already told you that.) :)
Matt, for one so young (let's face it, I'm older than dirt compared to you), you seem to have your head on pretty straight. Yes, love exists as well as its close companion, pain. It's a cliché, but only those you love can really hurt you. And it's true, humans make mistakes. Otherwise, we'd all be wearing halos. I don't think a halo would sit well on MY head!
I truly appreciate the kind words. John, you've got some pretty terrific people out there who really care about you. You're lucky to have such good friends.
I do agree that constructive criticism can be a good thing. But also, unless it is taken in the spirit with which it is given, it can also come back to bite you. If the person who it is intended for can't really "hear" your words or advice, then it ends up sounding like insults.
John may have once felt the way you describe, although I don't really think so anymore. He's certainly made his mistakes, as we all have... and I'm not claiming to be the end all and be all of knowing everything. The time will come when he's ready to mature, and it will only be in his time, not ours... and not when we wish it to be. Patience on our part is the difficulty, but we must have it.
John is in charge of himself now, and in charge of his own life. Our job, as friends and/or parents, is to sit back and let whatever happens happen when he falls, and be his biggest support when he succeeds. But throughout all of it, no matter what, we love him. He knows we all do, whether he'll admit it or not.
All I hear from Stosh is crickets...turnkeypcJuly 7 2005, 22:47:14 UTC
John, your silence on this issue is deafening. No comment from you because what is being said is not what you want or expected to hear, perhaps
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I also agree with you. She is an excellent mother. She has learned from a lot of her own errors in the past, and now that's all she's trying to teach her son to do. Unfortunately, how it's being taken is why this has gone the direction it has.
Anyway, that's my two cents. You are a good friend.
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Julie, you're a peach! (But then I've already told you that.) :)
Matt, for one so young (let's face it, I'm older than dirt compared to you), you seem to have your head on pretty straight. Yes, love exists as well as its close companion, pain. It's a cliché, but only those you love can really hurt you. And it's true, humans make mistakes. Otherwise, we'd all be wearing halos. I don't think a halo would sit well on MY head!
I truly appreciate the kind words. John, you've got some pretty terrific people out there who really care about you. You're lucky to have such good friends.
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John may have once felt the way you describe, although I don't really think so anymore. He's certainly made his mistakes, as we all have... and I'm not claiming to be the end all and be all of knowing everything. The time will come when he's ready to mature, and it will only be in his time, not ours... and not when we wish it to be. Patience on our part is the difficulty, but we must have it.
John is in charge of himself now, and in charge of his own life. Our job, as friends and/or parents, is to sit back and let whatever happens happen when he falls, and be his biggest support when he succeeds. But throughout all of it, no matter what, we love him. He knows we all do, whether he'll admit it or not.
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