I never considered that I had anxiety. All my life everyone convinced me that I was "shy," and that was my excuse for not talking in public or clamming up when people spoke to me. But here's the clincher: I never felt shy. I always wanted to talk and be part of a group, but my profuse sweating and nervous stomach got the better of me. When I got
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Part of why it took me so long to decide whether to go this weekend was the whole back-and-forth, "do I really want to go to another crowded convention center" vs. "but my nerds." And when you're hanging out with other anxious-type people they get it when you need to take a breather, so I was okay.
This is actually why I want to go to acupuncture, because I think it'll help. I don't want to do the medication route. I don't even like taking painkillers.Some days are better than others, obviously, but there are moments that I'd rather stay home than go out and do something I'd probably enjoy. And I'm aware how stupid that is, which makes it worse.
Bah, why can't my brain just cooperate with me.
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It's a hard scary thing though, either way. And then hyou get anxious about getting help! And it's even worse.
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Medicine's not the answer. Don't see a psychiatrist or your primary doctor for this. A therapist is not a doctor and does not prescribe medication.
I'm biased, yes, but I also know the research, and I can tell you that a GOOD therapist will be able to guide you through this. There is a specific kind of therapy that is proven to be very effective at decreasing anxiety (which is important since not all therapies are created equal). I can tell you all about the process from the inside out (since this is what I do with my clients every day). If you do decide to go the therapy route, please please PLEASE talk to me first so I can match you with a good one. Not all therapists are created equal either, and I wouldn't trust ( ... )
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You know that I saw the on-campus therapist/whatever they are for a while and we really didn't work well together. He'd be like, "well, try to look people in the eye when you talk to them!" and it only made it worse because I was trying too hard and I couldn't even walk down the sidewalk with my head up. Bah. (That's gotten better, at least.)
Talking to people is hard :P
And it's funny you mention SAI-those are the only functions were I actually feel comfortable, even if I don't know anyone in the room. Must be a common bond thing. Or being an alumni that everyone looks up to. I have no idea, but when I went to province day it was fun because I wasn't stressing out over everything. And that's when I realized, hey, some people feel this comfortable all the time and I'm jealous ( ... )
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I don't do big groups either because I never know what to say. If I get a person one-on-one, I'm usually ok. But if I'm expected to mingle, I'm in trouble. For me, it's easier when I know I have something in common. Oh, tell me about your chapter! When did you pledge? Did you do musicales? Instant connection!
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