Our Relationship is Falling Apart

[quoththeme]

Why don't you get it? I support you in everything. Every new job you want to take, I support you. I talked you out of quitting your band, even though I knew it meant spending less time at home with us and more time with people that I don't know, doing whatever it is you do. I don't even question you when you get back because I'm trying really

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[notodette]

Tell him to quit the band. My husband is the most illtakeyouforgrantedperson ever. I eventually had to straight tell him he had to stop going out like he was single. He did. But if I hadn't given him that chance, our relationship would be balls today. I'd say yell him what you've said here, and I'd def start wih that. But he seems like he might beed even more than that. Like a straight up, I nees you home right now, I. Please.

[quoththeme]

That's the thing, though. I don't want him to quit his band. I don't want him to go through what I'm going through. I want him to have that. I just want him to appreciate what I do. I want to feel appreciated and desired again.

[notodette]

It's not a tit for tat thing. It's a you need support thing. It's okay to need support.

C goes out again now. We never had bad blood. I didn't want to make him miserable. I needed us to change as a family.

[quoththeme]

I see what you mean. The guilt is going to suck, though. I feel so guilty over everything I ask him to do.

[not_hothead_yet]

sounds just like my first husband except he didn't even say it was a band he joined, he'd just be gone. Usually drinking with buddies.

It never got any better until I kicked him out.

[unmowngrass]

*hugs*