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Nov 11, 2010 18:17

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neytaritook November 11 2010, 09:28:24 UTC

It doesn't sound horrible to me. I get where you are coming from. I don't agree, but you are speaking what you believe out of love. You aren't being hateful or malicious, just honest *hug ( ... )

radishmatriarch November 11 2010, 09:40:12 UTC

My advice is, have an open and honest relationship with any kid you have. Try to foster the kind of relationship that if the kid does go gay he/she will be comfortable telling you, even if they know you disagree. I think with the attitude you have (that you love the people even though you do not think they are behaving in a moral manner) this won't be difficult. I think that's the best you can do. Raise the child according to your morals, but don't set it up so if the kid disagrees with your view they will feel like they can't talk to you.That is how I want to raise my child. If my daughter gets pregnant in high school or my son wants to tell me he's gay, I would expect them to know that I wouldn't be overjoyed about that, but I would also hope they wouldn't be too afraid to tell me. I think I would not like to have my son tell me he was gay, but it would be worse for him to feel that way secretly for years and years and just never tell me. And if he truly has no interest in girls, the last thing I would want him to do is marry a girl ( ... )

radishmatriarch November 11 2010, 10:06:57 UTC

Anyway, the reason I'm thinking about this is that I want to be a mother. I want to be a mother so badly that if I hit thirty or thirty-five and there's no man in sight, I may choose to adopt a couple of kids and raise them on my own. I want to be a mother that badly ( ... )

neytaritook November 14 2010, 23:50:53 UTC

Eeeeh I'm not inclined to believe that research. I've heard research all over the place. No one really knows, is basically it.

So adopt girls ;)

_legend_ November 12 2010, 00:51:24 UTC

A very tough issue. I'm surprised the Mom believed the little boy wouldn't be made fun of by his peers. I've been a 5 year old boy before. I've also known, helped raise, and subbed many more of them. I can guarantee this Halloween experiment will be remembered and used against the child at a later date even if nothing happened at this party. It simply isn't worth the potential pain ( ... )

neytaritook November 14 2010, 23:52:38 UTC

I think she knew he probably would be. But you don't change the world and make it a better place by letting the jerks run everything. Her kid could be the next Oscar Wilde. He's already keeping his spirit alive.

As for the rest.... -_-

_legend_ November 15 2010, 01:43:48 UTC

It doesn't seem right to use a child as a vehicle for non-critical social change when the child is going to be potentially traumatized because of it.

neytaritook November 15 2010, 02:36:52 UTC

The kid wanted to do it.
And I guess it's only not critical to you ;)
He won't be traumatized. There are enough people working for change that he should have a support network. Or he can be homeschooled.

Come on, I cross dress all the time. I bind and everything. And I've been doing it since I was this kid's age. Why should he have to be so restricted?