Comments | raining_cloud: Working on Myself

raining_cloud

Working on Myself - a call for suggestions

Sep 03, 2008 21:51

One thing I really want to start working on is being more laid-back and less high-strung. I don't want to worry about things as though they're going to be the end of the world if they turn out wrong. It's true that this kind of attitude often acts as motivation, but it often gets unhealthy. I am also aware of my occasional unnecessary ( Read more... )

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defygravity0915 September 4 2008, 03:58:06 UTC

Now...I am certainly no expert in this area...but I would think the best step (and the first step) is the one you are already working on...and that is recognizing it...in all of its forms...like changing any habit first you have to work on recognizing it when you do it. It's easy to recognize when you are biting your nails or playing with your hair, but recognizing a thought pattern is much more obtuse...for this maybe journal..like a lot...and try and recognize the patterns you have in the ways you think day to day (maybe you already do this ( ... )

defygravity0915 September 5 2008, 04:21:57 UTC

Also...in those heated situations where you feel like you just HAVE to say something...ME statements are super super effective. Even if you want to jump all over them just state your discontent from your POV "I'm having a hard time understanding what you mean" as opposed to "YOU MAKE NO SENSE". This also gives you time to cool down as it usually takes a few seconds to rephrase what you need to express in a more neutral way.

kibarika September 4 2008, 22:29:48 UTC

The thing that I've found over the past... geez, 12 years or so... is that those strong emotions I feel have a tendency to pass - and after they do, I might regret some of the ways I expressed them ( ... )

jack0falltrades September 5 2008, 03:29:44 UTC

I know it's not really constructive to say "be calmer" because, how are you supposed to suddenly change?
But I'd say, try to open yourself to what others may be feeling/ going through. Don't react immediately to, say, a person cutting in line. Understand that some people make mistakes and don't sweat the little inconveniences in life.
Make room for others and their mistakes, and have faith that people will make room for you when you need it.

alilquirky September 7 2008, 08:58:04 UTC

The truth is, there is no easy to way to change yourself. I mean, bettering myself is, I would say, my number one goal. It's a daily thing. A daily struggle to KNOW yourself, to know who you even WANT to be. Sometime I used to do and wanna start doing again is once a day say both, "I'm awesome" and "I suck". Or, you could be nicer and more PC and be like, "Here is a strength!" and "Here is a weakness!" Cuz you gotta do both. You can't just focus on your weaknesses. Seek balance. And remember one of my sayings: "I'm just a girl, doing the best I can with each day I'm given." One day at a time, one choice at a time. Self-awareness isn't something that happens, something that you wake up one day and go, "Horray! Now I know myself!" It's a journey, but hey - what isn't? That's the FUN of it. Don't look at it like a chore, look at it like...like a way to live your life in which you can get so much more meaning and adventure and joy. It's FUN - like a super fun project, like legos or lincoln logs...or whatever you like to ( ... )