Barukh Dayan Emet -- Blessed be the True Judge

[reb_hillel]

עקביה בן מהללאל אומר, הסתכל בשלושה דברים, ואין אתה בא לידי עבירה--דע מאיין באת, ולאיין אתה הולך, ולפני מי אתה עתיד ליתן דין וחשבון: מאיין באת, מליחה סרוחה. ולאיין אתה הולך, למקום רימה ותולעה. ולפני מי אתה עתיד ליתן דין וחשבון, לפני מלך מלכי המלכים הקדוש ברוך הוא.Akaviah b. Mahalalel says, consider three things and you will not come to sin: Know

Comments

[ladyhawke_wings]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

I myself sometimes feel similarly, especially as I'm without husband or child. But it is said that not even a leaf moves that Gd has not directed and so I try to remember that I do not always know the affect I have had on others. So, I just hope that somewhere along the line my actions will have brought good to others on their journeys and even though I, too, will probably not have a minyan, perhaps my legacy can live on that way. Sometimes this helps. :-)

*hugs*

[spin0za1]

Hillel. You can't believe this.

[curious_reader]

I was at a funeral, too. As you might have seen my entry I cried with the mourner. I found it horrible. I guess I would be even less able to watch it if the body were not in a coffin. Just out of interest. How do they do it with women? They are not obliged to have a tallit. In London they use a simple coffin. As far as I heard (I think it was in the Talmud) everybody gets the same simple coffin to treat everybody equally when they are dead.

[reb_hillel]

Women get buried in simple white shrouds, no Tallit. The Tallit is in addition to the dead's shrouds, anyway. In the diaspora, a man gets wrapped in the tallit over his shrouds (and one of the tzitziyot gets removed, since it would be improper to bury the dead in a kosher tallit -- dead are unable to perform mitzvot). In Israel, the tallit is draped over the shrouds for the funeral and removed just prior to the burial. Women are just brought to the grave in the shrouds, wrapped in clean white sheets

[ploni_bat_ploni]

Hillel, hugs hugs hugs.

I understand your despair but I am going to pull you back into the world of the living and tell you that you ARE loved and appreciated, and chas v´chalila, there WILL be a minyan at your grave.

I understand these thoughts. I´ve had them too in dire times. All the more important it is to have friends to tell you that you are loved and to snap the fuck out of it. :-)

[awful_dynne]

I am so sorry to hear about the death.

I am struck by your thoughts on your own death, and am saddened by it...and so, like Ploni said, know that you are loved, and beloved.