My First Post

[wellspouse]

Hello Everyone

Comments

[moonlitdorian]

I don't think that all relationships, married or otherwise, have to be monogamous. From what I've heard from people who do non-monogamy though, you need to be very careful to keep communication open and to be in touch with your wife about how she is feeling.

The polyamory communities may be a good place for you start reading if you want some information on how to make your relationship work.

[xevv]

This is a very very difficult situation, and I think you are handling it maturely and doing the best you can

[thetar]

that is a truely trying situation to be in and i have heard of similar ones to that. i give you much praise for being so strong and patient.

here is my two cents which is probably wrong, but that is for God to decide and i dont have much to back it up from the Bible...abraham had two wives. it wasnt a perfect setup but he did. most of the religious world regards abraham as being a devote follower of God (pick a flavor...christian/islam/jewish) and i from my understanding of scripture, there appears to be no real condemnation of a man having two wives. now i am not saying get married in court or to do bigamy but i do think it would be okay to have a second woman that could be a part of your life and you could be also spiritually committed to each other. i am sure a number of folks will disagree with me and think i am a wacko but i just wanted to offer this as something to think about.

good luck.

[tenchan]

-double thumbs up-

Very awesome m'dear.

You'll find your fit in things...Sometimes you can't let society judge what works for you. You two seem happy enough (I hope), so, don't beat on yourself. Kudos to you!

[papermoonriver]

Bless you for wrestling so hard with this. I don't blame you at all for having the troubles that you are having. Many psychologists deem sex as one of the fundamental necessities of life, and I respect your struggle because of that. Not a single person can judge you until they have been in your shoes

[papermoonriver]

Oh, and also -- I notice that you created your journal very recently. I don't know if this is a new journal that you created in order to express your feelings on this subject and reach out to people, or if you are new to LJ. In case it is the latter, I wanted to let you know in case you were unaware that you can friends-lock this entry and any entries in your personal journal that you would wish to secure from the general public (if you were concerned about real-life friends or family stumbling upon your more private entries like this one, for instance). If this is a concern for you, you might also want to remove certain details from your "bio" section of your info page. If you aren't telling people around you that you have a livejournal, it probably isn't a concern but better safe than sorry.

Please dismiss this if you know already, I just wanted to point it out in case you're a first time user. Just watching your back, bro. :)

And I'm curious -- how did you find us?

[kisekileia]

The other option that occurred to me, treatment-wise, is medical marijuana, which I understand can be used to treat fibromyalgia pain. Places where medical marijuana is legal (I don't know if the OP's state is one of them) have compassion clubs, which are groups that provide safe and reliable marijuana access for medical users. It is possible to buy something called a vaporizer, which vaporizes the active ingredients of marijuana at a controlled temperature, avoiding the usual odor and keeping the user from inhaling toxic plant matter. If this is an option for the OP's wife, it's worth a shot.