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[recycledbabies]

What do you guys think.
All other things being equal, assuming the person in question is sensitive, beautiful, shares your passionate interests, etc., would you rather date someone a little dumber or a little smarter than you?
Why?
Feel free to discuss your ideas on intelligence if it means making your point clearer.

Comments

[coolbluereason]

smarter than me. i love to learn new things. i like to be corrected if i'm wrong so i can get smarter. smart people interest me. i hate looking down on dumb people.

[lizzrdking]

same again please, barkeep.

I'd rather a partner be one step ahead of a conversation than one step behind. keeps me on my game at all times. one caveat: no snobbery. a smart person who throws it around all superior-like is wildly unattractive.

[gingerninja]

I've done dumber in the long-term, and it rarely works out in my favor. Gets boring, and in extreme cases, embarrassing.
I haven't yet had the idea of dating someone smarter spoiled for me. I'm sure it's just as obnoxious, I just... like dumb girls. I guess.

But my only experience is with a same-sex couple. Or at least a girl-girl couple, with the hard-to-shake underlying competition- which, I have found, can be tedious.

[ceolmhar]

I've found a good balance between dumb and smart if you will. As an example, my boyfriend is gifted at the guitar, and I can barely make a barre chord. I understand more theory than he does though. He built his computer from scratch, and I bought a mac because the very thought of having to boot in safe mode scares the hell out of me. He's not dumber than I am. I work with and wait on the dumb people every day, I know them well. He's not smarter than me either-I've had friends who knew that they knew more than I did, and they can frustrate me. I probably like the control that comes from being smarter than someone in a work environment, but that ends in the relationship. I want desperately to be equal in every way possible. I think it's more important to find ways to balance the scales rather than find things to be dumber/smarter about.

But in a work environment, I have to be faster, smarter, more concise, and have more knowledge than everyone. I assert my right to be an Alpha in the workplace.

[coolbluereason]

there's also a difference between being dumb and not being able to do something. you barely being able to make a barre chord doesn't come close to constituting as "dumb." you're simply unable to make a barre chord. being scared of booting into safe mode kind of goes in the same lines. but i don't really know where being smart or intelligent begins and being unsure or unable ends.

i guess when i read the question, my thoughts were more based on worldly knowledge, intelligence when it came to things like grammar, spelling, speaking correctly, etc. and ability to learn basic concepts aling with a desire to learn new things.

[toynbert]

smarter is definitely better. If they really share your interests and are sensitive, there is nothing you have to lose.

[sparklyjess]

all things being equal, can i PLEASE choose a partner who is smarter than me? or at least AS SMART? if we're gonna fight just as much, it's nice not to have to explain any expletive you use that's over one syllable. and anyway, who doesn't like a challenge?