Not enough of a good thing

[redkendrad]

Recently, I had a very close encounter with a guy who paid me a lot of nice attention.  This was simply a friendly flirtation, and meant noting.  I know that.  However, I had - and kind of still have - a hard time not wondering about it.  It has been a VERY long time since a man has held me close like that, has whispered in my ear like that, and

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[jcw_da_dmg]

For whatever they are worth to you, here are two thoughts:
1) I always thought you were attractive, and
B) I share your frustrations in this regard.

[sideband]

Hrm. Well. It's no secret that I've found you attractive since I met you. Why do you think I used to "STARE" at you... and get others to do so?

Problem is it seemed to me you were pushing away, that you didn't want the attention. So I let it drop.

Perhaps it's your reaction to the attention that tends to make guys think you're not interested?

I don't know. I'm obviously not a relationship specialist. Just sharing my thought on the subject.

[redkendrad]

I never know when guys are joking around, or not. Too many people have joked around with my emotions, that I'm sick of it. I keep myself guarded because I don't want to get hurt again. I am not going to let myself get hurt by letting down my guard just to have that guy *not* like me... To find that he was just "playing around". Or worse, officially off the market, because he is dating, engaged to, or married to someone else.

Then, there is the problem that I find myself attracted to guys who are not interested in me... and then there are the guys who are interested in me, but I'm not attracted to them.

I'm such a mess.

[kevinnickerson]

I don't think I've ever known anyone who wasn't a mess. The ones that don't think they're a mess are the worst messes.

Cold comfort, sorry.