The Shape Of This Mirror

[regohemia]

I value the thoughts of others a great deal. When I can I like to listen, and when not listening, to read.
Consider this, then, a request made my the author, to ask yourself a few brief but important questions before posting replies or making comments:

Would you say what you're going to type to the person you're directing it at? If you don't know

Comments

[semiconsciously]

Yeah, I know I occasionally fall prey to this. Just hit me back when I'm doing it; with one caveat: I'll try to not fall victim to group-think; if I do, try not to be confrontational about it. Just let me know I'm doing it.

Deal?

[regohemia]

Huh.

Is there a reason why you decided to respond to this now?
It's like the frontage for my journal... it'd been here like 4-5 months now?

Sure... yeah... I'll let you know if you do group think.

Did you just now look at my journal as my journal and not through your friend's list?

-Me

[semiconsciously]

No, I'd read it before. But I was clicking on your journal, saw this post, and it seemed more "real" to me suddenly.

[regohemia]

Oh, cool.
I'm not sure why I'm thankful, but thanks for regarding it as more real.

-Me

[green_left_eye]

Would you say what you're going to type to the person you're directing it at? If you don't know them, would you say it to a stranger? I'm trying to make it feel friendly here, at least for myself.

I typically have the exact opposite problem. By the time I'm finished typing something out, I've usually had the chance to think it over and decide if it's something that I really want to say to a person. It's face-to-face conversations where I tend to step foolishly; my mouth is typically about five seconds ahead of whatever part of the brain regulates impulse control.

On a semi-related note, it was great seeing you at the party.

[regohemia]

It was good seeing you at the party too, man.

We should endeavor to hang out once when it's not a crowd of people we already know better than one another.

-Me

[nici13]

love the date...