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[rexisadog]

I have decided in 2008 to look in earnest for a wife. This is not something that I am taking lightly...I am really serious about it. I am earning an income in a respectable job which is compatible with my philosophy of helping others. I am satisfied in knowing that I am indeed a christian...I am not so satisfied with churches in my area. I need

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[justplainlisa]

I know it's hard to realize that you just can't give the care to your parents that they need, but you need to take into consideration your health and well-being as well as theirs. It's hard to admit that you just can't handle both the medical and emotional aspects of their care. I have seen your posts and I can see how being their sole caregiver has ground you down. I don't think anyone who is a parent wants that for their children. I know how hard of a decision it is to allow someone else care for them is, but when it comes to serious illness it becomes necessary. That doesn't mean that you don't love them.

Good luck on finding a wife. Having a companion to share life's triumphs and woes can be very wonderful.

[flarn_chef]

Hold on to your parents as long as you can, but do look for someone to share life with you. Both are not easy tasks! (the voice of experience)

Do you have a plan of attack as to how you are gonna find/meet someone? I did the Internet thing, and it took me almost 2 years to find my soul mate. I still think fate has a lot to do with it, but sometimes fate needs a little kick in the pants. :D

[erinzdad]

As you know, my dad passed away last month. The major contributing factor to his early (at 88) demise was his exhaustion from almost single handedly caring for my mother, who is in the fifth (final) stage of Alzheimer's and is totally dependent.
Your decision to put your own welfare first is not in the least bit selfish, for how can you offer succor to those you love from the grave? I tried to explain this to my dad, but as with all things in his life he had to do it himself, nobody else could do it to please him. His perfectionism provided his greatest strength and his greatest weakness.
I remarried in June of '06, and it has not just saved my life, it has given me an entire new universe to celebrate life in. Open your heart to all possibilities and the loving God of your understanding will provide to you much more than you sought.
May peace be upon you, and may you have a sweet and gentle new year.
Mathew