The Saddest Truth About Men I've Ever Seen

[rhodielady_47b]

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THIS is what we badly need to be telling pre-teen girls instead of all that stupid slop about how "LOVE CONQUERS ALL" when 100% of women I've known throughout my life have learned the hard way that loving someone simply isn't enough---not when that person doesn't love you enough to do all the things they know they should. 

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[spikesgirl58]

SAdly, that's all too true.

[mairi_dubh]

Absolutely spot on.

Young ladies and young women need to have instilled in them self-respect and self-love of the most positive sort, for if they don't respect themselves and love themselves and believe they deserve good partners of integrity and intelligence who can be compassionate, kind, and loyal, truly loyal, who's going see them as worthy of respect, genuine love, and integrity, intelligence, compassion, kindness and loyalty? ---Nobody.

I saw something of this video short's text happen in real life some time ago: one of my neighbors back in my unattached days was a gay man who wanted to take a long sea cruise with his partner, perhaps around the world. Partner kept insisting no, no, he didn't want to, wouldn't enjoy it, no, not worth the significant expense, no, no and more "reasons." Eventually the two broke up which hurt my neighbor very deeply. within a year after their break-up, and after my neighbor had moved out of the apartment building where we'd been neighbors, I ran into him at a small shopping center and he

[rhodielady_47b]

How sad for your neighbor! I hope he eventually found someone worthy of him.

:^(
And I agree about all the older women who badly need to get that message too.

[faunhaert]

it seems Ironic don't know how to stop the
"i want to do *.* but not with you. ?

[rhodielady_47b]

"i want to do ******* but not with you.

It all goes down to the old bottom line of "HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY" doesn't it?
Back in the old days, the idea of honesty certainly rocked the boat of many an anxious mama or even an anxious Grand-mama who had a socially awkward or even homely daughter she badly needed to marry off as soon as possible before she became labelled an "old maid" or worse.

:^\

[faunhaert]

the world of women has been messed up

for a long long time. :^(

[rhodielady_47b]

It certainly has been.

These days, people simply tell their daughters prepare to support yourselves and don't look to anyone else--maintain your independence.

Or they SHOULD.

:^\

[bluehorse]

I remember when I was a young girl, my mom telling me to never show my intelligence, or that I knew more about a subject, or refuse to happily go along with whatever interest the young man might have, or get upset if he refused to go along with something I was interested in. The only thing I was to refuse him was sex. After all, once I "caught" him and got that magic band on my left ring finger, I could then fix him and offer that as a reward.
Pretty sad, huh?

[rhodielady_47b]

Extremely sad since it wrecked a lot of people's lives---and still is wrecking lives since a lot of more conservative families still bring their daughters up to BELIEVE this garbage!
The young men thought they were getting sweet "compliant" young wives but many of them found out that they'd married someone they really didn't know and, worse, who'd resented the heck out of always getting "forced" to do whatever the young man wanted to do back when they were dating.

Some men may have been delighted to find out that the women they'd married were a heck of a lot smarter than they'd been allowed to find out---but many weren't since quite a few of them rapidly figured out that the ladies were smarter than they were!

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Strangely enough, nobody ever thought to pass your bit of information along to me so by 7th grade I was intimidating the heck out of almost all of the boys my own age as well as many of the male coaches who were relegated to teaching the middle school history and science classes. [I've often wondered how my life would

[mairi_dubh]

Maybe, but only maybe. Teenage girls, particularly teenage girls in a "circle" can make another teenage girl's life a living hell if they choose to do that, even one of their circle's number. (No; didn't happen to me, but neither had I a "circle" to which I belonged. One classmate whose mother was friends with mine confided to me once that I made her think of Simon & Garfunkel's "I Am A Rock" and that the impression she had of me as such was indelible.)

Certain social expectations were drilled into me, but only certain ones. Certain others must have been considered pointless.

As for you intimidating the heck out of the boys and a lot of the male coaches, don't doubt for a moment that you weren't intimidating plenty of the girls, too.

[rhodielady_47b]

You're probably right. I was bored and lonely in middle school.

(And to add insult to misery, the shop classes the boys piddled around with were completely out of my reach despite begging to be put in one or more of them. The guidance counselor told me himself that the shop classes were where they put the "bad boys" and as such they were no place for a young lady! Having a place where I could make things would have been so wonderful back then.)

:^{

The same guidance counselor unknowingly gave me the answer as to why I didn't "fit in" later on that same year.

[veganhothead]

Yes we need to get this message out. If I had gotten that message before I committed to my ex my life would have been a helluva lot better.