maybe you could do a webcast for the far flung people. and, maybe you can do a round of email invites with people who are far to see who can actually make it before you plan on the final count?
I would probably go the Norwalk party route, although the concept of going to Portland-a place I have never been to is tempting. However, if I don't make the cut for the Portland wedding, I would be just as happy at a Norwalk celebration just as easily.
The way we did it, we just invited everybody anyway. The people who were too far away mostly considered it a ceremonial thing (or, at least, that was the intention - "you mean enough to me that I want you at my wedding, and you can determine if that fits into your plans or not"). Most people for whom it didn't fit into their plans, it was no big deal - they sent back the RSVP and said "good luck/congratulations" and maybe we traded an extra email or two that we wouldn't have otherwise. A couple were looking for a chance to take a vacation, and surprised us by showing up - which is another thing to take into account, some people will be excited about the opportunity to travel and your wedding will inspire that.
Mostly, I don't think it's a burden to invite anyone to a wedding, under most any circumstances. It's a happy occasion, and I think people tend to respond to it as such.
We sent paper invitations to about 70 of the friends and family we expected would want to come (and we wanted to be there for us). And then we openly invited everyone else via emails and verbal invitations in the places we frequented. About 70 people showed up, mostly just the ones we sent paper invites to, though we'd hoped a few locals we knew just from the internet would show up just for fun, but, alas, they didn't. You might have more luck!
Ours was also a wedding that was far enough away from most of our friends and family that only the folks who wanted to (and could afford to) make the effort showed up. And that seemed to work out well for us number-wise.
On a side note, we also specifically asked for "no gifts, please" on the invites, which kept the cruft to a minimum, but didn't stop the few folks who really wanted to give us gifts, which was, for the most part, fine with us.
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:o) I am so happy you are getting married!!!
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Mostly, I don't think it's a burden to invite anyone to a wedding, under most any circumstances. It's a happy occasion, and I think people tend to respond to it as such.
--ann landers
(also, congratulations!)
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We sent paper invitations to about 70 of the friends and family we expected would want to come (and we wanted to be there for us). And then we openly invited everyone else via emails and verbal invitations in the places we frequented. About 70 people showed up, mostly just the ones we sent paper invites to, though we'd hoped a few locals we knew just from the internet would show up just for fun, but, alas, they didn't. You might have more luck!
Ours was also a wedding that was far enough away from most of our friends and family that only the folks who wanted to (and could afford to) make the effort showed up. And that seemed to work out well for us number-wise.
On a side note, we also specifically asked for "no gifts, please" on the invites, which kept the cruft to a minimum, but didn't stop the few folks who really wanted to give us gifts, which was, for the most part, fine with us.
Enjoy!
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