Comments | rm_renfield: There's a fine, fine line / between a fairy tale and a lie

rm_renfield

There's a fine, fine line / between a fairy tale and a lie

Sep 04, 2009 17:05

"There's a fine, fine line / between reality and pretend / and you never know 'til you reach the top if it was worth the uphill climb / there's a fine, fine line / between love and a waste of time... I guess if someone doesn't love you back, it isn't such a crime ( Read more... )

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nearlymay September 4 2009, 22:36:26 UTC

dood. You're taking this awfully personally. I mean, the fact that he didn't come to your last-minute group outing does NOT mean you're way less attractive than you thought. Maybe he had plans already. Maybe his mom's in town. There's no way to know why he didn't come, and there's no reason to think it has anything to do with you.

Not writing back to your I-guess-you're-not-coming email is kind of dick, though.

And besides, even if he didn't come PURELY because he's not interested in you romantically, WHY THE FUCK does that mean you're not attractive? Maybe it means he's a moron! Or you remind him of his little sister. Or you look too much like his last girlfriend. WHO KNOWS.

\rant

pointnopoint September 4 2009, 22:43:18 UTC

I don't think this has anything to do with how attractive you are at all. That's basing your self-worth on what someone else thinks of you, I've fallen into that trap too many times ( ... )

glamourcorpse September 5 2009, 04:05:16 UTC

What they said. Also: HUG HUG HUG.

On a shallow note, LOVE the new layout.

jchance September 5 2009, 05:54:40 UTC

Some good comments here--I just have to add that "in your league" is plain bullshit, at least once you get out of high-school popularity rankings. Yeah, statistically, people ranked as similarly attractive are more likely to end up together. But, individually, people's preferences vary so much that _all_ you can say is that any semi-healthy couple are attracted to each other. I think a lot of your problem, and of the reason the numbers are so small, is trying to calculate for an "appropriate" match rather than letting yourself be random, and aim "higher" or, for that matter, "lower" than you expect ( ... )