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[rockit_girl]

I was on Facebook not too long ago and saw that the group of people I hung out with in high school are renting out a place and are having a Prom.

I haven't spoken with the vast majority of these people in forever, so I shouldn't care what they do. But this bothers me on a fundamental level. They are in their mid to late 20's, married, engaged, or

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[audesapere]

no, a prom for late 20somethings is freaking pathetic. I mean, my god, why relive a tacky party where you weren't even old enough to drink?

I never went to the prom.

In other news, I still kind of can't believe Casey is married now...I haven't heard from her in years and she put me on limited profile on FB, then one day I logged in and was like, "Who in hell is Casey Megan P--?" She definitely never seemed like the type. Shrug. I'm only bringing it up bc you're the only person I now know who ever knew her.

[rockit_girl]

It is pathetic! I don't understand the draw or the desire to relive such an event. I went to my senior prom, and you know what? I don't remember a damn thing from it.

I removed Casey from my FB friends years ago. She was that type of person who was your best friend to your face and then bitched about you to someone else when you weren't around. She did that to me a number of times and I had finally had enough. I have no idea if it was just me or if that had happened to other people as well.

But I agree, she doesn't seem like the person to go and get married right after college... Or at all.

[audesapere]

Yeah, I agree with you. The last time I saw her was in 2006, right after I moved to NYC...she was "nice" enough to "let" me hang out with her and her "cool" friends at Columbia and we were going to this music festival. There was an incident on the subway, and a stampede (I shit you not), and i actually got hurt sort of badly (not requiring medical attention, but I was the only one in the group who got hurt at all...my glasses got smashed into my nose, I got a bloody nose, etc). I was really shaken up and she decided we should go out to a bar; I felt really uncomfortable being hurt and bloody and gross AND too broke to go out with these damned Ivy league kids to a bar (with their fake IDs!) where they barely spoke to me anyway. it wasn't cool. I finally said something like the bar was too upscale for me, but I think I was probably kind of a bitch about it, Casey got sort of mad and said I should stop acting like her friends were rich snobs (? i think? oh my god, I cannot BELIEVE how long ago this was...) ....I took a cab home that I

[dmbfan41]

I don't hate you for posting this as you can certainly have whatever opinion about us that you would like. But I do think that a rebuttal is needed here

[rockit_girl]

Obviously I have offended you, and for that I'm sorry. You were never one of the people from high school that i refer to. Neither is Andrew or a select others. There are people from knolls (and hills) that I hung out with that I reference more than the following people: you, Andrew, Alex, bill, Amy, Meredith, Emily, etc. They are all great people aNd you should be proud of those friendships. Beyond Amy, I don't talk to any of them anymore. That stopped just immediately after high school. The fault for that is both my own and theirs. Even in high school no one really took the opportunity to get to know me. Did you know that until towards the end of high school I battled clinical depression and OCD? No? No one did because no one took the opportunity to get to know me. I do resent that because that meant all 4 years of my high school were spent in misery. I was alone.

So can you blame me for hating the idea of a prom? A party to celebrate friendship sounds amazing. Especially with friends that you've had since elementary school. I have

[rockit_girl]

Tells me it was more than just a party celebrating friendship. You can have those anytime. So why a prom?

In addition, I admit there is jealousy. Jealousy because I was never given much time of day by any of you (with the exception of Amy and Amanda E, both of whom I am still friends with). Jealousy because even in college when I tried to maintain a friendship with Bill it never worked out for reasons I won't mention here. Jealousy because for the last 8 years of my life I have worked my ass off to get where I am and there has been NO free time to go out partying.

I also have a personal qualm about people not taking advantage of their lives to the fullest by experiencing new things or going out of their comfort zone. by my standards, none of you have.

The point is: I hold no grudge against you, personally. You are a good person. As is every one of the denville people. But can you blame me for holding a grudge against a group of people that were supposedly my friends but never gave me much time of day? Not one of you ever, ever knew the

[rockit_girl]

So then let's talk. We can make our peace, as you say. We can share life stories and laugh. But now we are of 2 totally different worlds and it will be a different sort of friendship. We have both grown in different ways and view the world differently.

Are you happy, Jared? Happy with your decisions in life? Satisfied with friendships and love interests? Happy with your post college grad life? I don't ask to be sarcastic or rude, as talking via Internet can often be perceived. I ask out of genuine curiosity. If we are to make peace then it means getting to know one another when I was denied that so long ago.