That's a tough problem, but one I identify with a lot. My mom is almost useless when it comes to "being a grandma". I can *never* count on her to watch the kids, and if she does happen to watch them, its only "for a couple of hours, I'm really busy/never have time for myself/etc" (which really means, she has a nail appointment or needs to shop). She has no kids left in the house, she's young (48), and she doesn't have to work... how busy can she be?? And she constantly calls to see when I'll be done... even though I've told her "until 4pm" or whatever multiple times. Arrgg... now I'm all mad about it LOL :-)
So, I feel your pain. Sorry you have to put up with that.
I thought I had replied last night, but I think it got eaten.
But what I said was, thank you thank you thank you. You totally get it, don't you? This sounds really similar. And I hate that someone else is going though it too. And it doesn't hurt me as much. She's not *my* mom.
Dustin has a huge tolerance for his parents letting him down. He's used to it.
Me? I have issues. Not for me. But for him and my kids. I hate seeing it happen. Over and over again.
OOOh, I feel for you. That sucks worse than her never offering to help. My MIL is always bemoaning the fact that she doesn't get to see R enough, but she can't hold her for too long or bend down to get her up off the floor, so she's not our top choice of babysitters. Plus, as of June, her single daughter is moving back into her house with her newborn twins, so that will be a whole new ballgame. Sadly, up until now, SIL is our top go-to babysitter. I know it's bad of me, but I can't imagine what kind of help my in-laws can be with twins, other than financial and a roof over her head (though that has to be a huge relief for her in and of itself), with FIL being at work all week and MIL being unable to bend and hold even a seven pound baby for more than five minutes.
Hopefully it'll work out better than it did before. It's great that your Hubby is on your side, though, not to mention your mom willing to come all that way for you. :D
It's not bad of you to wonder how much help they will really be. I mean, twins! I'm so glad I never had two little ones at once. I can't imagine.
Also, you mentioned my mom's willingness to come help. Did I mention that my mom only has one arm? Well, one and one half. Well, one and one quarter, really. It's above the elbow. (Cancer, long story)
And she still said she thought she'd be able to do it on her own now. Since he can sit up and all. I told her he wiggles. She said she'd figure something out.
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That's a tough problem, but one I identify with a lot. My mom is almost useless when it comes to "being a grandma". I can *never* count on her to watch the kids, and if she does happen to watch them, its only "for a couple of hours, I'm really busy/never have time for myself/etc" (which really means, she has a nail appointment or needs to shop). She has no kids left in the house, she's young (48), and she doesn't have to work... how busy can she be?? And she constantly calls to see when I'll be done... even though I've told her "until 4pm" or whatever multiple times. Arrgg... now I'm all mad about it LOL :-)
So, I feel your pain. Sorry you have to put up with that.
Nicole
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But what I said was, thank you thank you thank you. You totally get it, don't you? This sounds really similar. And I hate that someone else is going though it too. And it doesn't hurt me as much. She's not *my* mom.
Dustin has a huge tolerance for his parents letting him down. He's used to it.
Me? I have issues. Not for me. But for him and my kids. I hate seeing it happen. Over and over again.
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Hopefully it'll work out better than it did before. It's great that your Hubby is on your side, though, not to mention your mom willing to come all that way for you. :D
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Also, you mentioned my mom's willingness to come help. Did I mention that my mom only has one arm? Well, one and one half. Well, one and one quarter, really. It's above the elbow. (Cancer, long story)
And she still said she thought she'd be able to do it on her own now. Since he can sit up and all. I told her he wiggles. She said she'd figure something out.
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