No feelings hurt, it's cool ^_^. Personally, I can't stand the whole "you need to get laid" thing as well, but just because it sounds INCREDIBLY rude to me.
But your reasonings are COMPLETELY understandable, and you do have a right to be upset.
I'm so sorry. I had no idea that things were that big behind this situation. If I had any idea it was like that (I don't blame you for not talking about it) I would have toned things down long ago.
Last thing I want is for people to change because of me. Just to keep this in the back of your mind, so things don't ever go too far. And so people don't try to force me into an uncomfortable situation.
I know it's difficult to face that--and I thank goodness I've never had to, because I have known so many people who have. However, it says a lot about how far you've come that you're not apologizing for the fact that you were assaulted, or that sex makes you uncomfortable.
Also--it's not just people who were assaulted that feel a lot more comfort with sexual situations when they don't involve them; it's very much a psychological way to cope with something that, for many reasons, can be outright terrifying regardless of experience or inexperience.
That said, I know I might not be the person you want to talk to, but if you ever feel like you do, my door's open.
And, you know, I find it incredibly offensive just as a concept that so many people seem to believe that getting laid is the answer to whatever may be "wrong" with a person.
Hell, even I've been told that I needed to get laid, because if I did, I'd somehow convert to the proper Lady I am supposed to be, instead of the one I am who happens to have a dirty mouth!
It takes a while to get to the point where you realize that what happened isn't your fault. It didn't happen because I was vulnerable, it happened because someone was looking to take advantage of me. So apologizing would do nothing for me.
Originally, I was going to post this on your end of year post, but then I decided that the issues that were bothering me wouldn't get resolved if the right people didn't see it. I'll say thanks for giving me the option to do something like that. I think without that post I wouldn't have made this one.
I would think getting laid would make you more of a sailor mouth... Maybe it's just me. XD
Also, wow, my post? I'm glad something good like this came out of it. I think you're also right that if and when I do have sex...that's going to be quite the trip for the people who knew me back home! I'm sure I'm going to just be awwwwwful. XD
Well I feel a lot like an ignorant ass, but since I am aware now -- I promise I'll try to tone it down a bit. I know we all like to get bawdy and a bit over the top. Honestly if I had ever had any idea it bothered you that much, I would have behaved better. I'll definitely be better about it now.
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Personally, I can't stand the whole "you need to get laid" thing as well, but just because it sounds INCREDIBLY rude to me.
But your reasonings are COMPLETELY understandable, and you do have a right to be upset.
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However, it says a lot about how far you've come that you're not apologizing for the fact that you were assaulted, or that sex makes you uncomfortable.
Also--it's not just people who were assaulted that feel a lot more comfort with sexual situations when they don't involve them; it's very much a psychological way to cope with something that, for many reasons, can be outright terrifying regardless of experience or inexperience.
That said, I know I might not be the person you want to talk to, but if you ever feel like you do, my door's open.
And, you know, I find it incredibly offensive just as a concept that so many people seem to believe that getting laid is the answer to whatever may be "wrong" with a person.
Hell, even I've been told that I needed to get laid, because if I did, I'd somehow convert to the proper Lady I am supposed to be, instead of the one I am who happens to have a dirty mouth!
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Originally, I was going to post this on your end of year post, but then I decided that the issues that were bothering me wouldn't get resolved if the right people didn't see it. I'll say thanks for giving me the option to do something like that. I think without that post I wouldn't have made this one.
I would think getting laid would make you more of a sailor mouth... Maybe it's just me. XD
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Also, wow, my post? I'm glad something good like this came out of it. I think you're also right that if and when I do have sex...that's going to be quite the trip for the people who knew me back home! I'm sure I'm going to just be awwwwwful. XD
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Sorry, lovely.
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