On associations

[sa_arine]

People have the right to choose with whom they associate. However, I have the same right. What do I do, when people who I associate with, choose to associate with those whom I do not choose to associate(for very strong reasons)? And my associations have not had the personal fortitude to come clean with me about their choice of associations,

Comments

Hanging out

[iliandriel]

Dearest friend,

Forgive me if I've misunderstood this post but it seems to me that respect is in order. Since when are we the Gestapo to dictate or get mad at who a person talks to or visits with? Since when do we have to report in? Personally I don't ask anyone who all they talk to nor do I expect them to report into me on who it is they talk with. That is the way of respect. As long as they treat you with love and respect that is all that you should expect. I'm sorry for feeling the need to react to this post but it struck me as a bit wrong.

You will always have my Light, Love and Respect, but I will talk, associate with, and visit with whomever I choose. I am not in Kindergarten to be chaparoned in my personal and friendship relationships. Such is not the way of the Mother nor of the elves as you know. As long as people respect me enough for this and I them we should have many years of lasting and loving relationships.

Light and Love, Judith

Re: Hanging out

[sa_arine]

...Your right to to talk, associate, and visit with whomever you choose was never under debate. I fully respect that right.
However, my right to the same is not under debate, either.
I am, therefore, in no way telling *you*, personally, not to associate with these people, or chaperoning your relationships. I *have*, however, chosen not to associate with these individuals in any way. I feel my decision has been fairly long-standing, and fairly well-known.
Love and Respect includes being honest, and work both ways.
You will always have my Light, Love and Respect as well, and I thank you for being forthright. That's all I asked for.

Re: Hanging out

[imieisegreti]

With all love and in a respectful posture, I would like to add a few words to this and to ask a question

Re: Hanging out

[iliandriel]

I don't understand where you feel people have been dishonest to you just because they did not say anything. Personally they probably did not think you wanted to know given your feelings on the person.
And dishonesty means that you deliberately seek to deceive or lie to someone. Witholding that which is not necessary is not a lie.

Light and Love, Jude

[sa_arine]

I thank you both for being forthright. In answer to your question, I simply felt I should've known, rather than being left to find out on my own--I felt left out. When I found out, I asked you. I have the answer and honesty I requested.