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[sarahinajar]

I am so tired of these bitchy women inbreastfeeding
  who claim to feel like a failure anytime formula is mentioned. There is a difference between a women who"breastfeed" and who breastfeed.

A person's words do not make you feel like a failure unless you allow yourself to do so and the women who have to supplement for legit reasons never claim to feel offended.

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[daemon82]

As a mom with a legit need for formula, the anti-formula stuff on there is frustrating to me. Some moms do talk about formula like it's poison. They talk about how everybody can breastfeed. Well, I can't. Nowhere near completely. Sometimes, I feel like even calling it partial feeding is stretching the truth. And their comments feel like a judgement, and make me feel like a failure. I have considered leaving the community on many occasions because I don't tend to find much helpful information there - I find more statements that cut down my confidence (something I really don't need).

That said, I keep my frustrations with those comments to myself because I understand what the stated aim of the group is, and I know that taking a wishy-washy halfway stance on breastfeeding isn't what most people need. And if I were to leave, I'd just quietly drop out and not make a big stink about how they caused me to fail at breastfeeding or whatever. It's always your option to join or leave the group. Adding drama is completely unnecessary

[sarahinajar]

You have worked harder than anyone else I know to make BF work and should not feel bad. There is such a difference between FF out of necessity and some of the other reasons given. I also know you go out of your way to create a bond and are not propping a bottle up into a baby's mouth.

I am sorry you feel down reading the community and I can understand that.

I think you can be an amazing resource and support for other women and I think you are outstanding.

[cakemaven]

the fact is that you are only a failure if you choose to feel like one. if you truly do everything in your power to give it your best effort, then there is no failure in that. that's the problem with stupid on the internet, it spreads like wildfire...

hey, do you have yahoo or aol IM? I have a lactation question I hope you can help me with.

[sarahinajar]

yup, I am sarahinajar on AIM or email me at sarahplin at gmail

[rememberjuly]

I noticed that once Trent was on formula and I had my long drawn out posts about it, the women who commented were supportive and made me feel better. I think that there were probably women that didn't feel like I had done all I could but they were kind enough not to post at all, maybe due to the fact that Trent was so sick and in hospital. If anyone had judged me, I think I would have been offended because I truly felt like I was doing all I could and my sanity was at it's breaking point. Your last sentence is the one that hits the nail on the head. I despise drama and therefore, stay out of most public forums that allow it. I don't join groups that allow drama and then whine about it. I just leave.

[sarahinajar]

there was drama in breastfeeding last night and it is so annoying.

I am getting annoyed about the attitudes some women have and how they seem to go back and forth about things.

[rememberjuly]

I think there is a huge difference between catty, childish, bitchy, mean spirited drama and adult-like debate and disagreement. I'm all for the latter but I can't take the catty shit. I saw some of both in the bfing community, but I never saw the catty stuff from you or any other women on my friend's list.