An interesting problem...

[sarielsedai]

Let's say you have a guy and a girl and they're in a monogamous relationship. The man does not want children and the woman says she doesn't either. At some point (well past the 5 year mark of the relationship), without telling her partner, she ceases to use birth control on purpose with the intent of becoming pregnant and does so. When told by

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[sarielsedai]

Honestly, I wasn't really looking for an answer, just some healthy debate :)

But if you think about it, how much would that suck for a guy? You don't want kids and suddenly, you have one and you can't do a damned thing about it? Or worse, you think its yours and somehow find out later on that it isn't and you still have to pay even if its known who the father is.

Obviously, to just let the father/supposed father run off without any responsibility isn't fair to the child - especially if the mother CAN'T support the child herself.

My thought is either the mother can support it herself or she can't. If she can't, then she has no business getting pregnant. ESPECIALLY when she KNEW that the guy she oopsed didn't EVER want kids. If you can't afford a kid, don't have one.

[sarielsedai]

Unfortunately. If they did consider their financial standing, there'd be a fucking HELL of a lot less kids around. Well. There would be if you didn't get more money for having more kids. :<

What about if he's NOT the father, she says he is, and he doesn't have any reason to suspect otherwise? Hypothetically of course. No clue how often this happens.

But the mother can go "oh... i don't want this kid. I'll have an abortion/give it up for adoption." the father doesn't have any such choice beyond "hmmmmm maybe I won't have sex" and we all know NO guy is going to do that.

wow

[jokerz]

that's a big can of worms...