Great Expectations

[saythleen]

It’s time for another installment of “Kathleen’s Musings.” Today’s topic (big surprise): RELATIONSHIPS. I don’t mean just romantic relationships; I mean all relationships, and what makes them difficult.

The answer, my friends, is EXPECTATIONS. The moment you expect something out of someone, it gets difficult. The best thing about friendships is

Comments

[beltacular]

i don't think it works to have no expectations- no matter what, you want to be treated a certain way. When you are in a relationship, any kind, part of it is giving the other person what they need and want, and getting that same response. And if you have no expectations, then the other person is free to treat you however they want, which can include any multitude of bad things. we have expectations to ensure that we are maintaining some sort of fair treatment of all time, as long as you are flexible and understanding with these expectations, i don't think having some sort of structure in relationships is a bad thing

[saythleen]

Good insight, Liz! I can't help but agree. But like Logan said below, they definately can get in the way at times.

Yet sometimes I have to wonder why I think I deserve to be treated that way, why I deserve special treatment. Not that I think I should be MIStreated, but I just wonder why I think someone should... drop something to call me, or stay up with all night while I write a paper, etc.

[pinkertonagent]

After every semester of college, my parents would ask me if college was what I "expected." And I always told them I had little to no expectations for college, so I was happy, and never disappointed with how college was.

Of course I guess I did have some expectations. I expected William and Mary to live up to its reputation as a good college with good professors. Realistic expectations are good, else you're being taken advantage of by other people. But unrealistic ones can be devastating.

This isn't perhaps Dean

[anonymous]

I can't suffer to stand for expectations, really, I mean, they're just another form of responsibility, and if I can't set my bed every morning, how on earth should I consider myself capable of holding the bar high on expectations?

That said, I am a sad and feeble man, hug me?