Oblivious

[shay_writes]

Trigger warning: contains sexual abuse

Everyone, at some point in their life, faces an ugly truth. Secrets are revealed through self-examination.
Maturity brings a better understanding of the facts. My moment of reckoning happened when I was in my late thirties.

I was sexually molested as a child.

Comments

[kshandra]

It was emotional abuse in my family, but I've had this revelation for myself. And dear god, it sucks. You have my empathy.

[shay_writes]

It does suck. I spent a great deal of time trying to wrap my head around why I didn't say anything and wondering if people knew.

*hugs*

[sweeny_todd]

Kids believe what adults tell them. I am so glad your daughter was able to tell you.

It's such a powerful lesson. We teach 'no means no' when it comes to sex, but not to anything else. If you don't want a kiss from aunty, or a hug from uncle, or if you don't want to eat something different, or to go to a show etc. We have a culture where we pressure people into doing what we want.

Anyway, sorry for that ramble. (and this is a little disjointed, but I read the comments)

[shay_writes]

I'm glad she was too. It took her a very long time to trust men again.

Rambling it fine. :) You are right and people wonder why kids bully each other.

[lilmissmagic71]

Wow. I can't imagine that kind of epiphany... not one anyone should ever have to have. Hope there's good healing for you...

[shay_writes]

Thank you!

The hard part was having my sister tell me it wasn't abuse and I was making a big deal out of nothing.

[i_will_not_say]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. :/

That was abuse, and I'm glad you were able to realize that it was.

*hugs*

[shay_writes]

I wish it hadn't taken so many years for me to become aware.

Thank you!

*hugs*

[gratefuladdict]

*hugs* I'm so sorry that happened to you and your sister. I'm glad you were able to use that insight for your daughter's good.

[shay_writes]

Thank you!

*hugs*