Hmm, what should i do for this fateful day?

[shinj4]

Yeah yeah, long time. I know. Wow, August 11th was the last time i posted in here.

Well anyways, i came to LJ for a specific reason.

Comments

[qirien]

Wow, that sounds like a big production. Everything depends on the type of people the two of you are, and what your relationship is right now, but you might consider something a little more . . . straightforward. Otherwise, any answer you get might be just as convoluted as the question. :-)

Seems like you've been interested in her for a long time, and you've been dating/hanging out for a long time, so you probably have enough basis of friendship just to be honest? I mean, what do you hope to get out of asking her? Do you want to marry her? Do you want to clarify that you would like to be more than just friends, and see if she does too? Are you just trying to fulfill your end of the wager? Your approach may vary depending on your purpose! :-)

Good luck!

[shinj4]

Taking a straightfoward approach seems like some sound advice. That was my original plan in fact, but my friend tells me that it's not romantic enough and that if this is the start of lasting relationship, then it should start with a grand gesture. As for what i am looking for- i wouldn't sstart any relationship i didn't think could and hope it would get to marriage. So i thought what i'd do is tell her that i am in love with her heart and all the details about how i feel about her and tell her that it's really up to her what she wants to do because if she doesn't want to try anything, i still would want to (and am sure i still could) be her friend. I just don't want to pressure her or make her feel uncomfortable and safe to say what she really wants to say.

[qirien]

Yeah, I think a romantic setting might be good, but not too much. Just something nice that shows you care about her. I think romance means more once you know you both like each other, anyway. :-)

Let us know how it goes!

Sunbursts and marble halls

[seacrayon]

I got your message asking me to read this and I agree with the women who have already posted. Keep it simple. I don't know if I'd mention the bet part; I don't know her though and she might think that's funny.

Save the romantic gesture for a defined date rather than the defining-the-relationship-date.

-Ras

P.S. The subject is from the Anne of Green Gables sequel. I couldn't resist adding the similar two cents of a literary character.
Gilbert: It'll be three more years before I finish medical school, and even then there won't be any sunbursts or marble halls.
Anne: I don't want sunbursts or marble halls...I just want you, Gil.
::sweeping romantic music::

Any young woman would be crazy to turn down a chance to get to know you better. Godspeed! :)