I was going to make this big filtered entry, and use fake names and locations to conceal some identities about something I wanted to vent about, but I've decided that I can't be bothered
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I love when people give you the "it's not like that" line knowing full well that it's not like that yet but given enough time it could be. I'm sorry that someone hurt you and I think you have every right to be upset. If something has the potential to happen and the person involved knows it could hurt you, even marginally, then it has to stop before it goes too far.
Obviously I'm speaking as one who knows nothing about this, but still. If you don't have friends that care about you, what do you have?
Re: Oh Hell No!!!shoewhoreOctober 30 2006, 18:38:36 UTC
And you know what? Only 3 people knew this little "secret", and the person I'm angry with was one of those people. And while I hated to run off to the other two people, as they are all friends as well, and be all, "Do you think this is fucked up?!" I needed someone to let me know that I am NOT crazy.
And well, when it comes to matters of the heart and a GUY tells you that what happened was fucked up and that he thinks I'm handling it more calmly than he would have, well... that tells me that it just ain't right.
Obviously there is a lot more to it, but if I were to tell the whole story, it would reveal things that i didn't really want anyone to know... Know what i mean?
Re: Oh Hell No!!!mudloveOctober 30 2006, 18:47:22 UTC
Perfectly okay with me, chickie-poo. No need to tell anymore than you're comfortable with. Just lettin' ya know I've got your back should a "girl fight!" break out. ;o) I've got lots of spikey healed shoes ready to be hurled. LOL!
Re: Oh Hell No!!!shoewhoreOctober 30 2006, 19:01:53 UTC
Nah. It's not going to go as far as any kind of ass kicking. Mostly because even though what this person did was wrong, I still know in my heart of hearts, it wasn't done INTENTIONALLY. Not that it really makes it any better, but still... This is more something that needs to be talked about, and understood that should never happen again, and why it was so wrong in the first place.
But, that doesn't mean i don't appreciate you having my back, yo! :)
A big kick in the nuts for whoever screwed you over. Hope it gets sorted out. Good for you standing up for yourself even if it means more drama than you want. Sometimes there's just no other choice.
Well, I haven't quite stood up for myself as of yet... But, I will. I wanted to have had this talked about already, but I didn't bring it up yet because i was still too mad and too hurt, and i knew i would say really mean things, that aren't even relevant to the situation and i didn't want that to happen.
And more often than not, I find myself defending the offending party because I make excuses for them, or I try to look at things from their side, or perhaps because I see the faults in myself, and I blame those... Subsequently, blaming myself.
This is exactly the problem that I have.
I'm glad that this time, at least, you're putting the blame on the person who hurt you, where it belongs. And I hope you can get everything sorted out.
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I love when people give you the "it's not like that" line knowing full well that it's not like that yet but given enough time it could be. I'm sorry that someone hurt you and I think you have every right to be upset. If something has the potential to happen and the person involved knows it could hurt you, even marginally, then it has to stop before it goes too far.
Obviously I'm speaking as one who knows nothing about this, but still. If you don't have friends that care about you, what do you have?
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And well, when it comes to matters of the heart and a GUY tells you that what happened was fucked up and that he thinks I'm handling it more calmly than he would have, well... that tells me that it just ain't right.
Obviously there is a lot more to it, but if I were to tell the whole story, it would reveal things that i didn't really want anyone to know... Know what i mean?
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But, that doesn't mean i don't appreciate you having my back, yo! :)
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But, there WILL be a discussion soon!
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This is exactly the problem that I have.
I'm glad that this time, at least, you're putting the blame on the person who hurt you, where it belongs. And I hope you can get everything sorted out.
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