Old car woes. Please pass as this is all crap that I am dealing with and need to vent.

[signsntimes]

The pressure to get wheels was immense when I was living with my son and his wife. She did have to drive me and that was a terrible inconvenience for her. I'd only go to the bank or the store when she went but there were other trips that I am sure added to her frustration. She found a small car and we took it to the shop to see if it was ok to buy

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[pondhopper]

Has your friend asked you to leave? I think you are being a little paranoid...
but the car stuff...that just sucks. For that money you might find something better than you have no matter how old and beat up...just better mechanically.
I wish I knew a way to help you out that really mattered. I think that the suggestion to go to social services was made by your friend who loves you and truly doesn't know what to do to help you out beyond offering you the trailer.
You are not a pariah or a freak, just someone who trusted and was stomped on by those you trusted.

[signsntimes]

You're right I was reacting to my own distress and projecting it onto others. Paranoia goes with feeling beaten down but I am not staying down.

[abbie_normal]

know what? i think you are just experiencing the grief and confusion that comes with being mistreated by people you trusted. know what else? i don't know about social services in utah, but in minnesota, there are resources for people who find them selves in your spot. you aren't indigent, you are recently transplanted. there is a difference. families do awful things to each other--there is truth in that old hack, "you always hurt the ones you love". because family is family, we get frustrated by each other, and we lash out because there is no "shield of nice" when we are close. family takes too much for granted--that we "have" to love them, even when they are rude or cruel to us

[signsntimes]

I did go to social services and got case number and an application filled out so things are rolling. I got a little overwhelmed for a while and now I am on the way to getting things back and going again. This has just knocked me down but I'll get up again. The sun today helped tremendously.

[mummm]

Why are you blaming yourself when these things are happening? None of it is your fault! Don't avoid Social Services because they really can help you! Also... have you applied for unemployment?

I think your DIL is just MEAN. I'm so sorry!

The amount that garage wants to charge you is absurd. Have you tried elsewhere?

[signsntimes]

Things are much better today and I don't feel so overcome with it all. I got my DL at the DMV and passed my eye test and my written test..that felt good. I asked one of my sons to help me get another car so it is on him now. I can't do it all.
I applied at social services and so ..yeah baby...I am on my way back. Just in a very dark place the other night.

[mummm]

Awesome!!! You go lady fair!

[jazzyglo]

You are not a pariah or a freak or anything like that. Stop blaming yourself for things that aren't your fault. You've been treated terribly by your family, and I can understand how alone you must be feeling. I'm glad you have a friend there and the trailer to live in. I think going to social services would be a very good idea. They're there to help people in need. Please take advantage of that.

*hugs*

[signsntimes]

Yup, did that today and the sun was out and made me hopeful again. Thank you.

[serendipity]

The four comments above mine are so well stated - I completely agree! Having worked directly with my county's social services department - and with people who needed its services - I agree that you should get an appointment to talk to someone there who can help you. At the very least they will be aware of your plight, and, more likely, they can connect you with temporary services until you can get back on your feet and continue in your own independent mode. And please don't blame yourself because none of this is your fault. You *are* strong and hardy, like bamboo, and you *will* get through the trauma. And we do love you, out here in the cyber ether!

[signsntimes]

Thanks. I am so much better today. Read some of my above comments. I love the bamboo analogy. Spot on my dear friend.