Now that you have the job, you should quit it.

[silver_huskey]

This is definitely a venting entry, feel free to skip it if you wish

Comments

[thornwolf]

How close are you to paying off your student loans? Cuz moving out sounds like the best option. Its hard to live at home as an adult.

[silver_huskey]

Two of my loans are in deferment/forbearance and I'm half done with a smaller student loan. For the moment I'm focusing on paying off my car and a medical bill. I figured once those are done I shift my focus to my said student loans.

And yes, it really is hard. I'm 26 but at times I'm being treated as if I was still 16 with all the time in the world on my hands. Sadly, I'm still a few years away from moving out. =(

[giza]

If you're looking for a change in scenery, how close/convenient are you to Center City Philly?

[silver_huskey]

I live in the lower Northeast, so I'm about 20 to 40 minutes away via Septa. Probably 20 minutes if I take I-95 by car. But living downtown is expensive, isn't it?

[giza]

You can live in the suburbs and commute to the city like I do. :-)

By change of scenery, I meant to ask if you're interested in switching jobs. I'm pretty sure that my $WORK is hiring for various positions. Let me know and I'll send you more details privately.

[silver_huskey]

That's not a bad living plan.

And sure! Hopefully it'd be something during the day? As I said, despite its frustrations I'd still like to keep my UPS job for the benefits.

[geofflb]

This whole thing just makes me scratch my head, as I'm sure it does for you. But I'm sure that with everything going on at home, you're glad to be working so much.

[silver_huskey]

It is, and now I'm randomly being yelled at for no reason. To be honest it is less stressful at work. At least I can play my handheld games/read/sleep in peace between jobs.

[geofflb]

Maybe your mother needs some kind of stress reliever, like a hobby or something. Because she doesn't, she needs some way to relieve it, and taking it out on you in the worst way possible. Good thing you can get some respite via handheld games, but I'm sure you want to slam your head against the wall.

[cjakatala]

Saving to move out sounds like a good idea after reading that. I'm sorry your mom is giving you all that crap...I probably would've lost it a long time ago *hugs*

[silver_huskey]

I know the longer I stay the worse it's going to get as I get older. Especially when living with someone who wants things constantly done their way. I think most people would have lost it, I'm not sure where my patience comes from. *Hugs.*

[whitewolf_707]

Don't buckle, Silver... I know how that kind of parent is. I speak from experience - 22 years of living with my mother. She will never be happy no matter what you do; the best you can hope for is only marginally disappointing her, and even then she'll tell you exactly how she feels about it. In my case, I finally couldn't live with it anymore, and fortunately already had other reasons to leave, so I did. It's the only way I could save myself.

So until you're able to move out, you have to do things for yourself. Make strides for independence in what you say and do; she's only upset because she wants you to be everything for her and it just isn't possible.

---WhiteWolf

[silver_huskey]

Thanks for the words of encouragement, White.

Rather, I'd say my mom is the kind of person who is just hard to please, or complains she needs help with everything without considering the time and needs of others. Or she doesn't want to learn how to do something herself if someone else can do it for her, ie, me.

Yes, you're right about that. I'm already learning how to take care of my finances, now it's time draw the line with her somewhere. (Just doing that is going to be the really hard part.)

[cwtyger]

I wish I could be there for you when you do that. *Nuzzles gently.* Good luck.

[silver_huskey]

Thanks. *Nuzzles.* Though with the things are going around here, I'm more so confused than anything now. =/