Sunday...and things are much the same

[simply_linds]

So what do you do when your lover is hurting, and can't or won't talk to you about it

Comments

[crimsonspin]

Linds, my heart goes out to you on this. I'm married to a guy who tends to keep things to himself, then explode--it is rough, especially for those of us who like me (and I believe you) are talkers, want to sort things out, get things over with and in the open.

Keep after him, and keep being there for him. When he's ready, you'll be there and that is a good thing.

I know you love him--we can all see that. And I think he loves you, too. Hang in there, kiddo.

C

[darling_nicky]

Hmm... I wouldn't be all for painful sex if I were you. It leads to bad things and love shouldn't be about that. I gotta look out for you;)

~*Love, Nicky*~

[klgrem]

*Hugs* Linds. I hope he didn't hurt you too badly. That's not good. And I hope he talks to someone soon.

Linda

[velvetcure]

i'm the total opposite of C, i'm the kind of person who keeps it inside. as a little insight (?), i know that i like to be left alone. but in the sence that i'm not being drilled. not physically alone. if ben's hurting and he's not ready to talk, then you just being with him (even if your not saying anything) can help. he loves you, and just the fact that you're willing to be patient and help him, proves you love him. give him a few more days. he'll start to come around.

[simply_linds]

I hope you are right, Velvet. Good to see you again.

I don't want you all to misunderstand-remember we're two guys, Ben and I, and sometimes, sometimes a little roughness is welcome. Ben's never hurt me. Ever. He's not the kind of guy to do so. But he and I--sometimes, we both understand that we need something harder, a little heavier between us--I guess I can't explain it very well at all where you guys don't think we are nuts.

Linds

[velvetcure]

i don't think you're nut. and hey, don't underestimate us girls. heavy lust is most welcome at times. it's all in the throws of passion. (did i just say "heavy lust"?)

[simply_linds]

Heavy Lust--I like that!

I've only been with a girl once and it was a DISASTER! LOL. I was too young and confused and that probably had everything to do with it. I was just sad cuz she was a friend and that ruined everything. Don't know if you watch QAF but when Justin agreed to sleep with Daphne I was screaming NO NO DON'T DO IT YOU IDIOT!!! at the tv, but that didn't work. And see what happened! Disaster! Although I think he enjoyed it more than I did. LOL.

Linds, definitely a man's man

[benjamin_carey]

It is coming slow, one post at a time. It's going to seem stupid, I know, but things happen without decent reason. I don't even understand right now.

[simply_linds]

It's not stupid, Ben. I'm glad you finally told me. I still have questions but that can wait.

I sent you an email, hope to cheer you up. Please check :).

Yours,

Linds