So hey.

[sindrian]

It has been brought to my attention that there are people out in LJ land (and beyond) that are crushing on me.

I have all the feels! See, before I moved to Boston I never felt that attractive. Even now, more than two years after first coming to Boston, I still find it kind of surprising. Intellectually I know this is silly, but there you go.

Comments

[minkrose]

I like our flirty times! They are good things that should continue (especially as I have ESCAPED SMOTHERING JOB THING and now have energy again). But, full disclosure, I haven't been seriously attracted to anyone but Andy since, well, Andy. I haven't even tried dating anyone since we got married. Turns out, at this point, about all I want is some good companionship and occasional kisses & snuggles. I can usually get those from friends for "free", i.e. without all the complexity of a real relationship. I tell people that Jarvis & I aren't dating -- and we aren't, but technically I'm getting everything I would want out of a second S.O. from him anyway (weekly lunch dates & emotional vulnerability/trust/closeness). Also, this occasionally makes me feel totally weird since I was poly before I even knew poly was a thing (though I was always, always transparent about what was going on with my partners). It's odd to no longer have the inclination to date new people. But, I'm rolling with it for now

[kythryne]

I am disastrously bad at dating men (y'all, I am a DYKE FOR A REASON) and almost as bad at poly, and my priority list goes something like

1: sleep;
2: pretend I have some clue about being a parent;
3: try to keep my body from killing me;
4: maintain primary relationship with spouse of 12.5 years;
17: run a business;
391: EVERYBODY ELSE IN THE ENTIRE WORLD

...but I am down with platonic flirting and cuddling. I often act prickly physically, but that's usually the pain talking, or remnants of OH GOD CHILD YOU WILL NOT DIE IF YOU HAVE TO GO MORE THAN 5 MINUTES WITHOUT BEING ATTACHED TO ME. it is always okay to ask if I am huggable! And if you are skilled at getting muscle knots to go away, I am almost always in need of that - if you spot me absently prodding my own neck or moving very stiffly, I will likely be quite appreciative of being asked if I need help getting my body to stop doing its non-consensual self-bondage thing.

*giggles* so I guess that's my declaration of, um, non-interest?

[csecooney]

This is adorable! And what a gracious way to handle to question. Bravo!

[moonfire77]

So I don't know you from a hole in the wall, but I've seen pics and purely from those I say you're attractive. Pretty sure if I met you in meatspace I'd be crushing.

[sindrian]

You all are awesome! Hugs and snuggles for the win!

[moonfire77]

Oh, yeah, also (partly so I don't sound 100% superficial) brains are super sexy and you appear to have them. So yes.