“All you need is love,” sang John Lennon in one of the Beatles more forgettable songs, which nonetheless became somewhat of an anthem in the late ‘60s. “It’s easy,” John promised
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Well, I just had to point out I LOVE your current music.
Regarding your entry, I agree fully. I myself am in a sticky situation (which you happen to know a little more than the gist of it) and I think it's all because somewhere along the lines I made myself believe that LOVE as we know it is all that is needed. I was wrong. Now, I don't even know what to do. In too deep, ya know?
I think anyone who claims that love is always mutual among people should just read your entry. You say loud and clear what a lot of people decide often to keep to themselves. And you're right, selfless love would be the ideal love. Too bad I for sure cannot pull it off.
Thank you so much for this comment. I'm glad you got the point I was trying to make.
I hope it works out for you. It's a hard situation and I don't know if I'd be able to handle it any better. You're a caring person and you're trying to avoid hurting someone. There's nothing wrong with that intention.
I don't think you have to close things off with him yet. But if the time comes when you're sure you don't want a relationship with him and he's still intent on pursuing it, I hope you'll be as honest and gracious about it as possible. In other words, don't try to do it by ignoring him or treating him rudely. If he's being a nice guy, that wouldn't be right.
Good luck. You deserve happiness and someone who cares for you. I don't think there's anything selfish about wanting that.
I think is my favorite essay of yours; it's really fantastic.
In my response I am going to reference that Sting passage I sent you about how their is only one word, love, but a thousand different definitons. Everybody has their own definition, and I think when two definitions don't match or somebody assumes the definition of somebody else, that's where you get into trouble.
Problems also arise when people want the love all for themselves and don't really return it, then don't see why the other person gets irritable. True, all you need is love if it's in the right amount and it can last, but for everybody to get the love they need people need to give it!
Yes, what you said makes total sense and you said it really well. You're right, people can think they're talking about the same thing, but they're really talking about completely different subjects.
Another source of problems is this is an area where people often don't want to say what they really feel. They don't want to say something because they think the other person won't want to hear it. Or they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. It's amazing when things ever do work out.
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Regarding your entry, I agree fully. I myself am in a sticky situation (which you happen to know a little more than the gist of it) and I think it's all because somewhere along the lines I made myself believe that LOVE as we know it is all that is needed. I was wrong. Now, I don't even know what to do. In too deep, ya know?
I think anyone who claims that love is always mutual among people should just read your entry. You say loud and clear what a lot of people decide often to keep to themselves.
And you're right, selfless love would be the ideal love. Too bad I for sure cannot pull it off.
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I hope it works out for you. It's a hard situation and I don't know if I'd be able to handle it any better. You're a caring person and you're trying to avoid hurting someone. There's nothing wrong with that intention.
I don't think you have to close things off with him yet. But if the time comes when you're sure you don't want a relationship with him and he's still intent on pursuing it, I hope you'll be as honest and gracious about it as possible. In other words, don't try to do it by ignoring him or treating him rudely. If he's being a nice guy, that wouldn't be right.
Good luck. You deserve happiness and someone who cares for you. I don't think there's anything selfish about wanting that.
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In my response I am going to reference that Sting passage I sent you about how their is only one word, love, but a thousand different definitons. Everybody has their own definition, and I think when two definitions don't match or somebody assumes the definition of somebody else, that's where you get into trouble.
Problems also arise when people want the love all for themselves and don't really return it, then don't see why the other person gets irritable. True, all you need is love if it's in the right amount and it can last, but for everybody to get the love they need people need to give it!
I think that all makes sense.
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Yes, what you said makes total sense and you said it really well. You're right, people can think they're talking about the same thing, but they're really talking about completely different subjects.
Another source of problems is this is an area where people often don't want to say what they really feel. They don't want to say something because they think the other person won't want to hear it. Or they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. It's amazing when things ever do work out.
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Ah, good! Sometimes I get lost in my analogies.
Agreed. Communication is key. Truthful communication is key.
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