Oh, sweety, you've got yerself caught in a vicious cycle. You don't get it done, which causes you stress. You start to do it, but you've got so much going on that it's all screaming in your head, and again, more stress. Then you're late... and thus, more stress
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Oh, and I was going to say.. if you can't break it yourself, surely you have a nice, boring friend who'll sit down with you and ooze calm at you or something? One who is organized, and thus will be able to help you prioritize?
Sometimes, a buddy comes in handy when we're our own worst enemies.
It would... be good. In some ways. Had something like that with the last boyfriend. Am very dependent. Isn't very good for the other person's mental health. Also been somehow progressively shrinking my social circle for a while now, to about three people, all of whom are disqualified for one or another reason. Afraid to ask the multiple many kind people who are outside that threesome of "see regularlies," because am not supposed to be dependent. Besides, they all have exams now too. I'm sure I'm putting this all wrong.
Okay, hm. I wasn't there, clearly. If you're dependent as in "I can't get dressed in the morning without talking to so-and-so," then maybe you do need a little more independence.
A friend to be your rock, to say "hey! cut that out!" on occasion? That's not dependence. That's .. well, that's what friends do.
Sometimes the things which are completely obvious, or we think they should be, don't come to us when we're in the middle of a nasty cycle like that. Even a non-organized friend can sometimes be the one to say "honey, when did you eat last?" or "did you take something for that monster headache?" That's not dependence. NOT DEPENDENCE. Oh, did I mention that's not dependence?
There's a difference between leaning on your friends and/or lover and completely collapsing and losing your own identity or will. And, frankly, some people do need more than others. That's okay, too.
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Sometimes, a buddy comes in handy when we're our own worst enemies.
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A friend to be your rock, to say "hey! cut that out!" on occasion? That's not dependence. That's .. well, that's what friends do.
Sometimes the things which are completely obvious, or we think they should be, don't come to us when we're in the middle of a nasty cycle like that. Even a non-organized friend can sometimes be the one to say "honey, when did you eat last?" or "did you take something for that monster headache?" That's not dependence. NOT DEPENDENCE. Oh, did I mention that's not dependence?
There's a difference between leaning on your friends and/or lover and completely collapsing and losing your own identity or will. And, frankly, some people do need more than others. That's okay, too.
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