Comments | skarlettsiren: so now what?

skarlettsiren

so now what?

May 05, 2007 16:45

I want to do whats best. I want to be true to myself. I don't want to hurt chris. I dont want to be alone. But isn't it wrong to be with him if i'm not really happy? Isnt it wrong to say i love you to him if i know there is a huge shadow over us? I feel like the right thing to do is break up with him, because he has a very defined future in his ( Read more... )

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skarlettsiren May 7 2007, 09:20:38 UTC

well, it isn't quite so cut and dry. It isnt early on, this is four years of history...and the feelings are, strong. He matters to me emensely...i just know i don't love him as much as he does me. Or rather, i think i am just more jaded than him.

youdictategood May 6 2007, 03:38:59 UTC

Don't hang on to something you already know won't work because you're afraid of being alone. It's a little brutal to look at this way, but...even if you try to drag things out, you're going to be alone for long stretches of time anyway because of the oo-rah semper fi crap. So why put yourself through "making it work" and being increasingly miserable if the end result is more or less the same anyway? Trust your instincts on this, love.

Pot, kettle...etc. skarlettsiren May 7 2007, 09:18:20 UTC

Am i allowed to rephrase that a bit and bounce it right back to you?

Re: Pot, kettle...etc. youdictategood May 9 2007, 11:53:16 UTC

Of course you are. If anything, it means I know what I'm talking about.

idunno_idiot May 6 2007, 07:31:12 UTC

In my humble opinion, it is wrong to be with him if you are not really happy. You both would be living a lie. You would not be happy, and you would not be devoting your whole self to him. He most likely would not be happy. The two of you would slowly come to the same troubles you are coming to now, only it would be more painful. You do not want to get yourself deeper into this situation before you have to save yourself, or both of you.
There may be a lot of what ifs. Yet at the start of all of this questioning is whether or not you want to be with him. If you don't, none of the other questions matter.
I hope you come to a decision you are ultimately glad to have made.

skarlettsiren May 7 2007, 09:22:10 UTC

I love the way you always say whats already on my mind.

stuntdog63 May 6 2007, 16:19:42 UTC

Some of those questions feel like the worst thing you could ask yourself. And I think everybody asks these questions sooner or later.
It's very tough to answer, I know.. I feel like the best advice to give is something you told me: when you're asking yourselves these questions, you already have an answer, you're just trying to see if someone will agree or not. So.. I'm not gonna agree or disagree, I'm going to let you keep your decision.

lokiwings May 11 2007, 23:16:15 UTC

If you aren't true to yourself, how can you be true to him?

Do what feels right. If you've given him an honest chance(and not subjecting him to outside expectations of becoming someone you otherwise can't have), there's nothing more you can do. Just be happy.