from what you're saying, it sounds like you wish you had my life right now (husband, house, financial stability). but to put it in perspective, i still don't feel like i'm where i "should" be in my life right now. i have friend who are my age and younger who have 2 kids already! sometimes i think "what's wrong with me?" and then i remember EVERYONE'S LIFE IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
not that that's supposed to keep you from being upset about where you are in your life, but maybe just help you to mourn it a little bit less each time you do get sad. the "death" of our own expectations of ourselves and life in general is a totally valid thing to mourn.
Haha, yeah, it kind of does. And I'm not sure, but you also work from home/work part time, right? I'd love to do that, too. Despite having my degree, all I've ever really wanted was to have kids and be a "housewife" with maybe a part time job or doing things from home. But I still needed to be self sufficient, hence school. XD
That helps a lot, actually. I'm still unclear of your age, but I figured you weren't more than three years older than me, max. I guess it's just hard to see things in perspective from your own seat, and up until this point, I'd done everything on time. I went to college straight out of high school, and managed to finish in four years when it seems like everyone around me is taking five. I guess I'm scared of losing that momentum, you know?
I also thought this divorce thing would be easy because I was ready for my parents to stop fighting, but it's brought a lot of ugly things to light and it's a lot harder than I ever thought it would be.
Kind of. I'm more like, a housewife who does art that earns almost no money, but brings much joy. I was planning on working the Christmas season, but I don't think I want to give up my creative time/space that not working has allowed me to have. This is definitely what I've always wanted.
And yeah, I just turned 25, so we're 3 year apart. I totally understand what you mean about momentum. It took me 7 months out of school to find and job and it was pretty heartbreaking. And of course, all I found was stressful retail jobs. (But I got an English degree. Not like there are a ton of directly relatable jobs)
I'm sorry about the divorce. I honestly can't imagine what it's like. I am glad that you and Kendall are older though... I think it would have been harder several years ago, especially for Kendall. She seems like she's grown up a lot lately. (This is when I realize how long we've known each other: 7 years)
I'm in a similar issue with my life--while I have a boyfriend, I don't know what to do when it comes to my actual life. My parents sent up the basement as an apartment for now but I'm still kind of -lost-. College didn't go perfectly due to how much being absent now effects your grade (which is just...stupid. I hate it so much) so I ended up leaving for medical reasons and have yet to go back. I did this when I was 17 (And I turned 21 last month so
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not that that's supposed to keep you from being upset about where you are in your life, but maybe just help you to mourn it a little bit less each time you do get sad. the "death" of our own expectations of ourselves and life in general is a totally valid thing to mourn.
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That helps a lot, actually. I'm still unclear of your age, but I figured you weren't more than three years older than me, max. I guess it's just hard to see things in perspective from your own seat, and up until this point, I'd done everything on time. I went to college straight out of high school, and managed to finish in four years when it seems like everyone around me is taking five. I guess I'm scared of losing that momentum, you know?
I also thought this divorce thing would be easy because I was ready for my parents to stop fighting, but it's brought a lot of ugly things to light and it's a lot harder than I ever thought it would be.
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And yeah, I just turned 25, so we're 3 year apart. I totally understand what you mean about momentum. It took me 7 months out of school to find and job and it was pretty heartbreaking. And of course, all I found was stressful retail jobs. (But I got an English degree. Not like there are a ton of directly relatable jobs)
I'm sorry about the divorce. I honestly can't imagine what it's like. I am glad that you and Kendall are older though... I think it would have been harder several years ago, especially for Kendall. She seems like she's grown up a lot lately. (This is when I realize how long we've known each other: 7 years)
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